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    embarrassed

    Sorry, posted in wrong spot.

    This may be a bit TMI but I am very hurt. My boyfriend and I had sex the other night. He was very drunk and it was dark in the room. I left in the morning to go to work and he was still sleeping. He texted me later and blew up on me. He said he woke up with blood on him and blamed me for not telling him I was on my period. He said he was very grossed out and felt betrayed by me. He said he couldn’t be with me because I am dirty. This is all out of left field. The main thing, I WAS NOT on my period. My period ended last week. I have no idea what happened and why there was blood. I didn’t see any when I got up. I am concerned why I bled after my period was over. He won’t talk to me now. I am dumbfounded on why he is acting like this.

    Also, he threw up in his garage and I found it in the morning. I was late for work so I just put paper towels over it and left. He blamed ME for throwing up and not cleaning it up. He doesn’t even remember it was him but he won’t believe me.

    I am very embarrassed and ashamed. He has made me feel like a bad person when I had no idea that happened. He isn’t talking to me now.

    #746413 Reply

    cindy

    It seems to me he’s had other issues with you, and is now using these lame excuses as reasons to leave. If you are being truthful then let him go. Also, it seems there were issues before hand…because it seems odd to me that he wouldn’t believe you now…seems like something is missing in thsi story…

    #746414 Reply

    anon

    First off, YOU are not the bad person, he is.

    1. Most men don’t care about periods, heck they are happy because you aren’t pregnant. If he thinks it is unclean, he is a gigantic jerk.

    2. So he has zero concern that you were bleeding when you should not have been? That alone makes him undateable.

    3. He thinks you should clean up his puke at his house? Really?

    Anyhow, you don’t need this guy in your life. He sounds horrible. And you know what, this is one time I think it is 100% OK to block and ghost.

    #746415 Reply

    cindy

    He wasn’t saying she should clean up his vomit, he wasn’t believing it was HIS. I’m wondering what kind of relationship they really had, or what issues existed before this. Noone wakes up saying, “Let me have an issue with my gf over these thigns”

    Also why are women so quick to accuse the man? Clearly he has spoken to her about the period before. And how does she, as a grown woman, not go to the toilet and see herself bleeding? I doubt it was a drop. We know if we are bleeding, and the times I’ve bled during sex I knew I was bleeding because I checked afterwards.

    There seems to be other things going on.

    #746418 Reply

    Karen

    Totally bizarre.

    #746419 Reply

    LanaLala

    OMG, DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED! What a seriously f**up jerk! Please, ditch him! Some men are grossed out by period blood and that’s okay, not much they can do about it, but it’s NOT dirty and NOT OK to tell you that you are and treat you that way. OMG, I can’t believe this.

    #746421 Reply

    cindy

    Lanalala seriously? why are women so quick to take her side in this? Something obviously is off. and if he’s acted this way before with her then she shouldn’t be surprised.

    #746423 Reply

    embarrassed

    One time I bled during sex and he told me he doesn’t like blood. I ended up having a cervical polyp. I always tell him when I am on my period and we don’t have sex. I am going to the doctor today. I know he doesn’t like blood. What happened was beyond my control but it sounds like Cindy thinks I did it on purpose. Why would I do something to make my life miserable?

    #746427 Reply

    Raven

    Your BF is a pig…

    #746428 Reply

    Raven

    What is going to happen when you 2 have children …?

    #746432 Reply

    embarrassed

    I don’t know. I feel so low at the moment. He made me feel like I don’t take care of myself. I left him a voice message telling him I was going to the doctor. He is ignoring me. Maybe Cindy is right after all. He was just looking for an excuse to get out. He finally got one I guess. Just sad he had to make me feel like a dog to do it.

    Just that evening he was telling me he loved me and was happy I was with him.

    #746431 Reply

    anon

    The right thing for a man to do when he sees blood on his D after sex is to ask his partner if she is OK. Not to make her feel bad.

    And actually, not to be TMI, but I had sex this weekend and did not know but my period had just started. My partner told me after that I was bleeding a little.

    #746433 Reply

    embarrassed

    I don’t know. I feel so low at the moment. He made me feel like I don’t take care of myself. I left him a voice message telling him I was going to the doctor. He is ignoring me. Maybe Cindy is right after all. He was just looking for an excuse to get out. He finally got one I guess. Just sad he had to make me feel like a dog to do it.

    Just that evening he was telling me he loved me and was happy I was with him.

    #746437 Reply

    cindy

    Embarrased – first read what I said carefully I never accused you of doing anything on purpose. What I said was that obviously there are details missing from the story.

    #746438 Reply

    Honeypie

    How long have you been together? What’s your relationship like usually? Has he blown up like this before? I ask because I suspect your relationship is full of rollercoaster emotions.

    If this is a taste of your relationship please run and don’t look back. This is truly awful

    #746439 Reply

    embarrassed

    It is a roller coaster. I think he is bipolar. He has even said he thinks he is at times.

    #746440 Reply

    cindy

    OF COURSE HELLO….i knew there was serious underlying issues…you know how he is, this is NOT the first time he’s blown up…

    He’s doing YOU a favor, get away

    #746441 Reply

    embarrassed

    This is the first time he has gone to this extreme. I feel like I made him be mean to me. If I was a better person he would not have treated me so badly. I pushed him too far by bleeding and not cleaning up when he threw up. Now he is gone.

    #746443 Reply

    anon

    So you made him be mean to you by unexpectedly bleeding during sex and not cleaning up the mess he made in his own house? Unless you purposefully somehow made yourself bleed on the guy, neither is “your fault”.

    1. Unless it is your period, there is a good chance that the bleeding was at least partially his fault.
    2. It’s his fault he vomited because he drank too much. It’s not your house or your vomit, why should you clean it up?

    Kick this guy to the curb.

    #746445 Reply

    embarrassed

    I believe the bleeding was partly his fault. I woke up very early in the morning and noticed him getting frisky. Since he was drunk, he was taking a very long time and he was kind of rough. It was also feeling very dry (TMI, I know) but he didn’t want to stop. He finally just passed out.

    What hurts is he won’t listen to any of my side. He is convinced I betrayed him and made him have sex with me on my period and that I was the one who threw up. I have no say in the matter.

    #746446 Reply

    embarrassed

    He has made me feel unloved and dirty. I am beginning to believe he is right.

    Thank you all for your input.

    #746447 Reply

    Raven

    Please leave this ‘relationship’ now!
    The guy is a pig…

    Work on your self esteem.

    #746449 Reply

    embarrassed

    I will try. :(

    #746450 Reply

    cindy

    I believe this is not the first time he’s been verbally or emotionally abusive. You know what you need to do.

    You have to believe you deserve better, you must improve how you see yourself. You must understand you are worthy of an understanding beautiful man who would never treat you this way.

    Get out now..and remember you’re young enough to find someone – and plenty of someones…

    I’ve been there..it’s hard but you can and will do this…i hope you do…=)

    #746451 Reply

    Kim

    Please, please, please stop thinking his behavior is in any way your fault!!!!

    You are so ready to accept what he says as if it is the law. The only person to give his words any authority is you. His words on their own mean zilch.

    Your words would be just as powerful IF YOU STARTED BELIEVING THEY WERE.
    Read what you wrote:
    “I believe the bleeding was partly his fault. I woke up very early in the morning and noticed him getting frisky. Since he was drunk, he was taking a very long time and he was kind of rough. It was also feeling very dry (TMI, I know) but he didn’t want to stop. He finally just passed out.”

    He didn’t want to stop? He finally just passed out? He was kind of rough?
    You could make a case against him for being a smelling, alcohol soaked, lousy lover and pull the same crap he is. You’d actually have a leg to stand on though if this was your complaint about that night/morning.

    I’m not saying to be as immature and unreasonable as him. I’m trying to point out that he is far from having clean hands in his accusations. You have to realize that his behavior may be the ramblings of someone with a chemical imbalance or just an insensitive and uncouth guy and see it as such and not as a reflection of you.

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