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Jan N
I matched with a guy on tinder, who is a nurse in October. We’ve been texting everyday but we haven’t met up yet. When I was studying for my NCLEX, boards exam to be a nurse at the time, he wanted to meet up after a few days we were texting but I told him I have to study. I ghosted him for 2 weeks because I was talking to another guy from tinder. I talked to him again after 2 weeks of not talking because I was really sad that the other guy ghosted me to distract myself.
When we started texting again, he would periodically ask me when I’m gonna take my exam so we can finally meet up. We finally set a date after I passed and I was the one who chose the date(a really late date) because I have really bad social anxiety meeting someone new especially from online.Last week, he told me he met up with a girl from hinge and got dinner and drinks with her. The other day, he texted me that he threw up all over the place while getting drinks with the same girl on Valentines Day. I told my guy friend about this and he said that if you go out on Valentine’s Day, it can also be platonic and doesnt have to be romantic. He also said that I should just meet him because texting is different than face-to-face and I can see how he really is.
I know we’re both single and we can do whatever the hell we want. I also am talking to other guys from tinder because I don’t wanna be too attached to him.Based from my past, everytime I started getting feelings for a guy I was talking to, I would always end up getting ghosted. Out of all the guys I’m talking to right now, he is the longest I’ve talked to. He got out of a 4 year relationship and isn’t looking to date and said he wants to let loose a little. I recently passed my NCLEX and am now a registered nurse. I know this is a good time for me to do whatever I want because I’m single and officially done with school. After I told my mom that I passed my NCLEX, she told me “you’re 23 now. It’s time to start mingling and put yourself out there”. This is also my first time doing this dating app thing so idk what to do. This is gonna sound super hypocritical but I have 3 dates with 3 guys this month before we actually meet up. He texted me the other day and I left him on read. We havent texted ever since. Should I wait for a few more days to text him again and still meet up with him in a few weeks or just ghost him/mute him on all social media?
Raven
I hope you’re not in the Tulsa area…
Aus
this is such a mess. You’ve been purposely avoidant and of course he will meet up with and see other women.
If you go into dating with a tit for tat attitude and this game playing, you will have your work cut out for youjust let him go and perhaps study this website and forum on how to navigate dating.
Liz Lemon
You said you have really bad social anxiety meeting up with people from online, but then you say you have 3 dates set up with 3 guys this month? That doesn’t make sense.
If you truly have severe social anxiety, you need to get a handle on that before you start dating.
About this guy: You don’t know this person! All this anxiety and drama over someone you’ve never met. Texting someone is NOT getting to know them. Until you meet them in person you have no idea whether you have chemistry or a connection. Texting should be kept at a minimum until you actually meet in person.
I agree with the previous poster who suggests you read up on articles about dating on this site. No offense but you have no idea what you’re doing. You’ve been texting this guy since October but haven’t met? There’s absolutely no reason for that. I understand you’re young and inexperienced but you are way, way overthinking this. The point of online dating is to meet people, not to text for months at a time. You should meet relatively soon after you start texting– a week or two. If you’re not prepared to get out there and meet people in person right away, then get off the app and work on yourself.
Sensy
I would suggest reading articles on how men think and not even put yourself out there until you understand how men think and the type of woman they are looking for and when you feel confident that you are that woman, then start dating.
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