The guy I met online blocked me after an argument. Should I do anything?

Sounds like you do not know how to deal with a relationship.

Look, if a guy is making you uncomfortable because of somethings he has said or did then you remove yourself from the situation. If it is only your own insecurities then you should not be dating but putting your time into fixing those.

Carrying insecurities into new relationships is a downer to anyone….imagine if you met someone and they were always wondering if you were cheating on them in their own mind…that is a downer before you start.

Block them or fix yourself…those are the two paths…choose wisely.

Thank you for your response redcurleysue. But I got a bit confused, I’m sorry. We’ve talked for less than 2 weeks before we had an argument. We never met in person. Yes, he said some things that made me feel uncomfortable so I told him that and he apologized and explained his side to me. But I said a lot of things to him over the chat. He wanted to call me so we can have a better conversation but I kept on rejecting his calls. Before I realized I was acting immature, he got annoyed and blocked me. Now, I’m feeling guilty and want to apologize to him.

Is this a pattern for you? To ignore instead of verbalizing how you feel? Even via text is better than rejecting and ignoring a person. This guy kept on trying!! Most people would call o once, maybe twice and then they’d stop talking to you.

Are you not aware of this? I am not trying to make you feel worse, I am trying to understand what goes in your mind when you “reject” his calls. Does it make you feel empowered? because oyu clearly don’t want to stop seeing him, then why reject his calls? What makes your do that? Do you understand it yourself?

Next time do not “talk a lot” over chat with a person you never met. Meet in person, take things slowly, do not divulge things about yourself to a toal strange, act normal, with the normal norms. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable, tell them that using words. If you are unable to say it using voice over the phone, then at least type it it up for them and make sure to word things carefully and use appropriate emojis so that your message is not misinterpreted.

Raven, we talked for only less than 2 weeks. We were supposed to meet, but he wanted to stay in a hotel on our first date so we could watch movies, sleep together, etc. So I started thinking negatively. I told him that, I wouldn’t go with someone to a hotel on the first date and that I want to take things slowly and get to know each other better.

If a guy I had not even met wanted me to go to a hotel he would have been blocked at that moment, no chat needed.

Strangers don’t matter. They are nothing. We have no feelings or attachment to a person we have never met.

Your mistake is imagining that you have any obligation or connection to an online stranger

So you didn’t like his tone, and you stopped talking. Fine, so what. The end.

Move on. Never go back to an online relationship that wasn’t. He wasn’t your friend, you are thinking that an online chat makes you in a relationship. Doofy.

You are being downright silly to think you should contact and explain. He’s just a stranger out there in internet land. Get it?

You’re lamenting over this weasel?!

It’s true, he might just be a stranger I met on the internet. However, somehow, we had some deep conversations. He was funny and sweet. But I didn’t really trust him as I never met him in person. And I thought, if he’s really interested in me and would take me seriously, then shouldn’t he be excited to meet me in person? But everytime we would talk about bonding or meeting in person or whenever I’d ask him if when he’s gonna take a day off, the first thing that he’d always suggest is a staycation either in a hotel or a resort where we could sleep together. Realizing that, I convinced myself that he has an ulterior motive and so I decided to stop talking to him . Then he kept on calling me, asking me what’s the problem and so I told him all I was thinking and my negative feelings. He tried to convince me he doesn’t have any bad intentions to me and insisted we could talk about it, give him a chance to prove he really likes me and he would take me seriously, that he would respect me and would agree to whatever I want in a relationship. But I couldn’t be convinced by mere words unless he’d really ask me out on a date, not anywhere private. I kept on interrogating him until maybe he got annoyed. I’d be convinced until now that it’s better, it’s totally alright he blocked me. What kept me confused is that, why did he have to leave a message saying “that’s the reason why your ex left you. The next time you’ll be in a relationship, the same thing will happen. The reason why men leave your attitude”. Fyi, no one from my exes decided to leave me and he knows that. Did he say that just to make me feel bad about myself? Was he possibly referring to me playing hard to get?-if that’s the case then I wouldn’t care anymore, I’ll just forget about everything as I know I’m protecting myself. But is it possible that there was really bad about my actions like choosing to convey my feelings thru texts instead of voice call, or was he referring to me arguing a lot?
Btw, thank you all for taking time to read my post. Your advice and opinion on my matter elighten me.

@Let it go thank you for that. You’re all right, I shouldn’t be bothered anymore. Anyway, I think I’m totally done on this matter. I’m totally new in this forum. Such thing kept on bothering my head these days but I couldn’t find anybody to ask to give me advice or express their opinion about my situation. I’m grateful I came across this forum :)

*had*

Hotel on first date?? *Block*

Unless you were also looking for a hookup.

While you could have handled it differently, I would like to note this guy showed you his ass as well. There is no good reason for him to say the hurtful and intentionally cruel things that he said to you. He already took sensitive information you gave him (a break up) to use against you when his feelings or ego was bruised.

Do you want a dirty fighter? You dodged a bullet. Move on. He went too low.