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Lucy
So he’s recently undertaking a new role but has to still do his other job, I can understand he’s busy, but if you’re into someone, usually you can find 5 minutes to send a message?
I sent him a message two days ago asking if he still wanted to talk and I’d completely get it if he was too busy. I just want to know, which I think is fair?
This is the last message he sent:
“Hey! Sorry I’m useless at the moment hope you’re okay your side! Literally just working and sleeping for me”
I did reply but he’s not opened/ acknowledged it in the two days.
At this point I just want him to tell me if he’s not interested. What do you all think?
Liz Lemon
Is this a guy you’ve been dating? For how long? Or is it just a guy you’ve been texting and haven’t met in person?
Not that it really matters. Sorry to say it, but he isn’t interested. First of all, if a man is interested in a woman and wants to contact her, he finds the time. Trust me, he finds the time!
And the fact that you asked him directly if he did not want to talk anymore, was he too busy, etc– and he avoided the question– did you notice, he didn’t even give you a proper response. He just said something bland and evasive. He’s not “literally just working and sleeping”. No one is that busy. And he’s ignored your reply for the past 2 days.
He’s not interested. You should definitely move on!
Liz Lemon
Oh, and he IS telling you he’s not interested. Not with words, but with his actions. No response IS a response. The fact that he can’t be bothered to give you a proper answer, or even open your last text– that tells you all you need to know.
Lucy
Op here!
We’ve been dating for a while, I guess I was just hopeful because he’d even replied to me asking the question. But from what you’ve said, it does make sense that he’s not interested anymore.
I was trying to get the answer i needed to hear and giving him an out Of whatever our relationship was by asking if he still wanted to talk. Him replying sort of gave me hope?
But I guess it’s not the case! Guess it’s time to move on
Newbie
I agree with liz. Why do you need a guy to tell you literally why he is not interested when its all loud and clear with his lack of actions. Thats all you have to do. Watch his actions. Dont wait for a guy to literally say it. Just move on. I know its easier said than done but thats the mindset you really need to have. You control your own life. You dont need a guy that doesnt respond to you in days
Liz Lemon
You’ve been dating a while? It’s crappy of him to do this in that case. I thought maybe he was someone you were just texting but hadn’t met. Were/are you actually in a relationship?
It’s pretty sh!tty of him to just ignore you if you’re actually dating. I’m sorry about that. But he is showing by his actions that he’s not invested or interested. Do you never talk on the phone or see each other? How long has this been going on, and how often did you see each other before?If I were you I’d stop initiating at all. If he cares, he’ll pursue you. If he doesn’t reach out, you have your answer.
T from NY
I absolutely agree men speak and show more with their actions. But I won’t give a pass to a man you’ve been dating awhile to just flake. It’s so cowardly and disrespectful. He should just let you go and say so.
Lane
Its your job to weed these guys out. This guy is able to pop in and pop out (offers “crumbs”) and your at his beck and call (respond) when he does. You are telling him you have no boundaries, so he treats you like you have no boundaries, because you don’t have any boundaries.
A lady with strong boundaries wouldn’t have let a guy like him slide this long.
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