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Elvira.
Emily
Should I feel guilty that I ended a friendship with my best guy friend because I love him romantically and he doesn’t feel the same? I’m much better at writing, so I sent him an email explaining that it’s too hard for me to pretend feelings aren’t involved and it’s hard to talk to him without feeling something or overanalyzing the conversations, etc.. He of course knows how I feel, and every time I try to walk away he says he will try harder to be that better friend, but I can’t help but shake the wanting more and it’s mentally exhausting for me. I know I need to care for myself, but I also care that he wanted to remain friends.. I just cant do it. I feel like the only way to let go is to move on.. am I right? :(
Lane
If its impossible for you to stop loving him and wanting more than he’s he able to offer you, then yes, a good long break from him until you lose those ‘luvin feelings’ would be the right step to take in this instance.
I know it sucks when feelings aren’t reciprocated and its always best to remove yourself from it in order to get over them. Maybe in time you can be his friend, maybe not—only time away from him will provide you the answer.
Elvira
Did you already post about this under “To Move on Without Letting them know”? If so you received a lot of great advice and even personal experiences from some of the commentators. Stop caring about what he thinks and it isn’t written anywhere that this situation “is forever”. You can very well choose to stop speaking to him/lessen communication for a few months. By then you may have moved on/met someone else and have a real friendship with him later if that is truly valuable to you.
Emily you need to realize that if he isn’t interested in anything romantic then it is his loss and you should show off your fabulous self…let him see all that you have to offer to someone who wants you in the same sense.
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