Rejected many times

7th: ex male colleague, he wrote to me after i left the company, i just replied his emails, then he said..why am i contacting and confiding in him, he sees me only as a friend and not looking for a r/s? i merely only replied the emails he sent to me in kind..and then i got “brushed off” and “snubbed” this way

I feel terrible..why am i written off by almost every men i met online, through friends, and at work ?

Being single is better to wake up with out anxiety or heartache when he leaves ypu for your best friend. Just use men the same way they use you.

Just run wild. Be free. Never get attached to them because they will never stay. If they do, they’re just going to cheat on you anyway.

I know that’s what im gonna do and when i can no longer function, I’ve stored it in the back of my mind to shoot myself because life is pointless. Especially after your kids have moved on with their own lives and you have nothing left. This world is f×ked up anyway.

sometimes i wonder whats lacking in me and in those women whom they dated and married so quickly

to be rejected is normal..but to be rejected by like 95% of the men you met seems to suggest something is fundamentally wrong with me

Umm, them being married is not a barometer on the quality of those relationships, nor on your value. I see a woman with low self esteem who chooses poorly and overinvests before she should. That is on you. You chose these men. Read that again, you chose these men, not vice versa. I say this because right now you are in victim mode, which reeks of desperation. You accept men who have not earned a place in your life into your life.

Once you realize that is your problem, not that there is something wrong with you, the better. Men who commit within 1 to 3 dates are unhealthy. The pattern is you both commit too fast, then he pulls away. Remedy, make him work harder to get you to commit. This means let him lead, and do not give up your life when dating.

Stop dating until you treat yourself better. Date yourself. Unless you love yourself, you will keep attracting and finding these men attractive.

We have a maker who dictates our lives?

YOU STILL HAVE A FUC×ING CHOICE IN YOUR LIFE.

Blessings and curses come from what you choose to believe or were conditioned to believe. It’s YOUR CHOICE to break the patterns. Your maker isn’t dictating the CHOICES that you make. Our maker gave us free will and too many people blame it on the great spirit in the sky for s×it it didn’t even do to avoid accepting it was from a CHOICE you made. The CHOICES YOU MAKE can cause an effect on another person’s life. Good or bad.

To go back into the past and rethink patterns and problems is asinine. The only way to break generational curses and patterns is awareness and faith in your maker that he’s placing you where you need yo be in life to get to your final destination. You might be led in the right direction, your CHOICES are what cause you to back track, take the scenic route, or wander off the path into a black forest. Stay on the path. Keep moving TF forward. You will get it right eventually.

Not much advice to offer but my sister married a one-night stand and I would say he’s more attractive and successful of the two (she’d kill me if I said that). They’ve been married for 15 years now.

So, you just never know.

“I mean it doesnt require much effort to attract or get a man to like u romantically?”

This statement jumped out at me. On the contrary, I think a true romantic attachment (not just lust) is hard to come by. It’s just not that easy to find someone who’s a good match for you, who is also at a place in their life where they want the same things you do, where there is chemistry and a true connection. The vast majority of the men you date will not fit that criteria. At least 9 out of 10 won’t. So saying that 95% of the men you date don’t work out sounds about right, to be honest….at least, if you’re talking about a deep, lasting relationship.

But to address your point about constantly being rejected. Maybe you have the wrong mindset if you think it should be “easy” to get a man to develop feelings for you?
As other posters have stated, Tallspicy in particular- perhaps you’re going after the wrong kind of men?
Maybe you should work on yourself, developing your own life and interests. Be the kind of person who is interesting to date. Don’t be obsessively focused on finding a man.

It’s somewhat a cliche, but the handful of “true love” type relationships that I’ve had (including my current relationship), all happened when I wasn’t all that focused on finding a relationship. I was definitely open to it, but I was busy leading an active, fulfilling life and the relationships happened in conjunction with that. I wasn’t overthinking things, I was just enjoying my life (all aspects of my life, not just the romantic). That’s what makes men fall in love, not desperation for a relationship.

I am a human being after all, to be taken on for a ride..strung along..then rejected or dumped..in the most cruel way possible

and that to be dropped like a hat, like i deserve it.when the other party was the one who initated a r/s..then a year later..they got married to other girls..

what makes of me? a fling? temporary gf? a hangout buddy that can be cast away anytime ?..an unwanted lady?..

if they are bad guys..why did they give the other girls commitment, serious r/s and then marriage?

this has eaten my self-esteem..i need an online chatting pal to talk abt my emotions..leave your email if you want..just need a listening ear from someone i dont know

“I’m starting to question your perception of things.”

I’m starting to question if this thread is truthful.

(no offense to the thread starter)

Well from their FB..plus the girls they married..are known in the speed dating circle…

So just to reiterate, you’ve been rejected by 7 men over a course of (what sounds like) a year’s worth of dating?

(not including the speed dating and one hit wonders)