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Erin.
Sarah
Hello everyone. I met a guy on a dating app. We’ve only been texting for about 4-5 days. He asked me if I wanted to meet up one night but I couldn’t because I already had plans. He didn’t ask again after that. Is the ball in my court now because I declined the first time he asked? I don’t generally do the asking but I would like to make plans and given that I said no to the first request I’m not sure where to go from here. Thanks.
Hayley
I’d say because you turned him down, you should have suggested a different date/time. Sometimes they’d take it as a no. But if a guy is vibing with you in the initial stages on the app, then he might ask you out again.
But keep in mind that he’s also got other (numerous) options on the app.
Sarah
Yea that’s true I prob should have but I was headed out of town for the weekend and didn’t really know what my schedule would look like once I got back. We actually have a mutual friend and according to her it doesn’t seem that he dates all that much, actually, despite being on the app. But you are right I’m sure he has other options. I do too. I still think it would be cool to meet up though and like you said I was worried about him possibly feeling rejected.
Maddie
He asked you out already, so you have nothing to lose by telling him you’d still like to reschedule and giving him a couple days that you’re free. He can still plan the date.
Zoe
No, you dont ask him out
Be more flirty in the texts, compliment him, he will ask you out again. I am sure you gave him excuse why you could not go out. If he is a reasonable person he will ask again eventually
Lane
Just put it out there. Next time he reaches out, just say “I know our plans didn’t jive but I would be willing to take you up on the meet offer now.” THE END. If he plans something great, if not, NEXT.
Erin
Well technically you should’ve say hey I’m busy on this day but how about on that day.
Men fear rejection and being turned down so badly that they only ask once sometimes but I also know that men who are really into you will ask again and get talking to you again.
I’d go with Lane’s advice and put it out there when he reaches out.
Sarah
Thanks, all. He’s been reaching out every day which I appreciate. We just didn’t have plans on the books. But we actually do now! He must’ve read my mind :) Thanks again for the feedback.
Erin
Glad it worked out well in the end. Good luck on your up date!
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