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April 14, 2019 at 7:18 pm #746037
So I started seeing someone new and it’s going better than I could expect but we’ve had sex a few times now and it just isn’t working for me, I’m a very sexual person and he seems to not be and we just don’t seem to be compatible. This is a big deal for me and I’ve tried talking to him about it and he’s tried taking what I’ve said on board but it just still isn’t good for me. I’m very open about my likes and dislikes and have been good to communicate with him so am just not sure what else I can do or where to go from here. I want to keep pursuing something with him but know this wouldn’t work long term unless it seriously improves so any advice would be really appreciatedApril 14, 2019 at 7:24 pm #746039
Dating is about compatibility. Not sure what advice you want to hear if you already made up your mind this won’t work is the sex is bad. It is possible to find a man where sex is great as is the rest of the relationship. This isn’t your man. I will say 5at judging sex based only on a few times is pretty silly. Sometimes it can take a little while to get in sync with a partner and it’s not always mind first time with a new man. In fact, he may feel the same way about you. You don’t say how long you have been dating. Maybe give it a few months and if you don’t feel differently, move on.April 14, 2019 at 8:11 pm #746044
If you’re not satisfied in bed after 3X, it’s time to move on.
You two are not compatible in the bedroom.April 14, 2019 at 9:57 pm #746052
Ahhhhh, that is a tough one. I’d say to be quite honest this probably won’t work out. Even once is enough to determine sexual compatibility in my opinion. You’ve done it a few times now and it’s great that you’ve been mature enough to communicate with each other about it, but it doesn’t sound like it’s going to improve. I actually slept with my now ex bf on the first date. The sex was amazing and was throughout the entirety of our relationship. Sometimes you just have good chemistry, sometimes you don’t. If this is a big deal to you, that’s ok. Sexual compatibility is very important and it’s one of the pillars of a strong relationship. Hope this helps and good luck!April 15, 2019 at 8:31 am #746081
Sadly too many women FAKE IT to the point men don’t know how or if they are doing it right because a woman is more interested in being in a relationship and will forgo that part if it means keeping the man at any or all cost. Then there are those where sex is great and will forgo the other parts because its so good you don’t want that part to end and stay for that alone—it can be a double edged sword.
It can take a little time for a man to lean a woman’s cues (where her sweet spots are so to speak)and may be awkward initially but you eventually find your groove and able to have it ALL…a good partner in and out of the sheets.
The fact you’ve been honest and trying to relay them to him how you ‘like it’ and he’s not responding is not good because men who truly love their lady want her to be HAPPY and will do everything to make her happy, especially in the sheets because he benefits from it too. It really sucks when you can’t find that right fit.