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October 22, 2019 at 2:39 pm #775966
My ex and I have been broken up for 2 months. He reached out a few days ago while he was drinking and said hey… being friends never hurt anyone. Let’s have a conversation. We texted back and forth a few times about life and such, but it turned into dumb texts like “hey” and “what are you doing “… and that’s not what I need. I know full well he’s just lonely and bored. I told him that I wasn’t ready to be friends. That it will hurt me emotionally and keep me from moving on. That if he wanted a serious conversation to pick up the phone, but otherwise I’d appreciate distance, which will allow me to move on.
His response was that some things never change and that he can see why he left.
I think he just mad because I showed some self respect and didn’t allow myself to fill the void until he finds
Give me encouragement, please! :)October 22, 2019 at 2:45 pm #775967
First off please block him. These exchanges can set you back emotionally.
Not everyone is going to end up friends with an ex. I think its often offered during a break up to cushion to the blow but, it rarely happens.
Stay strong and focus on our healing from this break up.October 22, 2019 at 5:46 pm #775972
I think I might change my #. Lol. It would probably be better. That was the 1st exchange we’d had in two months, but I quickly saw that it was already setting me back. I know he’s out looking for someone else and I can’t be the one who fills the void. It would still be too painful. If I’m labeled as negative or sensitive or whatever, so be it. But I have to do what is best for my psyche. Thanks for the advice.October 22, 2019 at 6:16 pm #775974
You did the right thing. Your request was dignified and reasonable. His response was childish and spiteful. Use it as evidence that you’re better off without him and as Khadija says, block him.October 22, 2019 at 6:50 pm #775979
He sounds like a manipulative dirt bag. Khadija is right, just block him and move on.October 22, 2019 at 6:51 pm #775980
T from NY
You don’t need to change your number. Just block him. If a man REALLY wants to figure out how to track you down and ACtually say something of substance – he will.
His response proves he was just looking for an ego stroke, possibly scouting for good and familiar eventual sex, or just immature. Probably a bit of all.
Keep looking after yourself. It’s challenging to stand up to people we love. But love yourself more. Block and get on with it. Good job.October 22, 2019 at 7:56 pm #775991
I admire people who stand up for themselves and don’t compromise on their values/standards. KudosOctober 22, 2019 at 10:03 pm #775999
Thank you, guys! I’m already so much more at peace.November 8, 2019 at 2:22 am #776971
I have question about why my guy always think of me like I’m dating someone else behind his back after seeing him and saying he had a dream that I was fooling around with my cousin. I love him so much I didn’t do to fooling around n I told him that , he doesn’t believe me calling me a liar. Need help what should I do to believe me?
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