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July 16, 2019 at 6:40 pm #757200
My girlfriend is better than me at everything. She’s 22 I’m 33 .When a i met my girlfriend two years ago she didn’t have much but a job. She was working full time. Two years later she has a car,liscense , two jobs,her own apartment and now she is a part time student at Strayer University.
My girlfriend out does me on everything in life. For Valentines Day I got her a card,and chocolates. She bought me brand new Nike Air Maxes, a new shirt and my favorite candy. We go out to eat late at night and she pays most of the time. She literally lets me get any and everything. I am insecure because I don’t have a lot of clothes and shoes so she took it upon herself and bought me clothes.
I had a rough patch last year with my mortgage. And she paid it for me. And paid my car note. She has given me money for gas and other things. She has a really selfish spirit. My problem is she over does for me. I feel like she’s my mom. It’s emasculating. Her friends know how much she does for me and it’s embarrassing considering her age.
i have a 22 year old busting her *** for me and i don’t have the means to do it myself. Feeling a total embarrassment and that she needs to worry about herself and not meJuly 16, 2019 at 6:44 pm #757202
So who’s forcing you to actually accept all this money?July 16, 2019 at 6:47 pm #757203
Sometimes i ask her but she shouldn’t talk about it to her friendsJuly 16, 2019 at 6:51 pm #757205
Hi-you are doing the embarrassing of yourself-why do you let her pay so much or so often? If you don’t like,and can’t afford the places you go-take her to things you CAN afford-take charge more. Even the balance..
If she is “over the top”-thank her and tell her the copious gifts etc. make you uncomfortable. Maybe she is “more into you,than you are her” and you feel guilty to benefit/take advantage of that. If that is so,break it off and stop stringing her along. If you do like/love her, tell her that when she acts mumsey,it is not sexy-she will soon stop. Also at 33 why don’t you have it more “together…July 16, 2019 at 6:54 pm #757206
Am I the only one who doesn’t wake up pissing stupid?July 16, 2019 at 6:56 pm #757207
I’m having a rough patch financially and i depended on her and sometimes she just gives me things just because but she talks about it and it looks bad but she seems as though she talks about it and doesn’t mindJuly 16, 2019 at 7:01 pm #757209
I don’t understand your question. I had a man leech off of me and he’s now history.July 16, 2019 at 7:02 pm #757210
Then tell you appreciate all she does for you but it is a private matter and you don’t like her telling her friends about it. Can’t you two just TALK to each other about issues? You sound a bit immature for your age.July 16, 2019 at 7:08 pm #757211
How do i sound immature?July 16, 2019 at 7:12 pm #757213
I’ll say it again because this thread tickles me. Ami the only one who wakes up and doesn’t piss stupid? It’s like talking to a tree stump.July 16, 2019 at 7:47 pm #757216
What’s stopping you from stepping up?!July 16, 2019 at 7:49 pm #757217
Nothing is i just can’t do for her what she does for me and she openly talks about it like she’s okay with it and it’s emasculating and embarrassingJuly 16, 2019 at 8:31 pm #757218
Are you Kito or On?July 16, 2019 at 9:29 pm #757220
He’s Jughead…July 16, 2019 at 10:56 pm #757222
If it’s emasculating, why are you accepting money from her for your car note, mortgage and gas?
I’m sorry but this pisses me off. This woman is bending over backwards for you and you have the nerve to complain about it? You’re emasculating yourself. You’re taking these things from her. No one is forcing you to accept it, so stop blaming her. Stop whining, step up and be a man– stop taking money from your girlfriend. That way she’ll have nothing to talk to her friends about.
Frankly I feel sorry for your girlfriend. She sounds young and dumb. You’ve been with her since you were 31 and she was 20? I hope she wakes up and realizes she can do better.July 16, 2019 at 11:07 pm #757223
How is she young and dumb? You wouldn’t help out a significant other ?July 17, 2019 at 3:24 am #757232
Not if my SO was an ungrateful 33 year old boy.July 17, 2019 at 5:19 am #757239
This feels like a fake post simply to get responders annoyed. It was also under a different thread – under a different (third) -name. I call BS.July 17, 2019 at 7:59 am #757244
Better off single
Step it up dude. Figure out something nice you can do for her to return the favor.July 17, 2019 at 8:04 am #757245
This isn’t a fake post. I just feel like she should keep our business between us.
She should be making me look better not like some loser. I do work again but she is better at some things than I am. I don’t take care of her like she takes care of me. I do other things for her.July 17, 2019 at 8:27 am #757247
“How is she young and dumb? You wouldn’t help out a significant other?”
Would i pay my boyfriend’s car note & mortgage? Hell no! And moreover I guarantee he wouldn’t even ask me for that kind of help. Anyway he wouldn’t need it because he’s a grown man who can take care of himself.
Likewise I would not ask my boyfriend for those things.
Its one thing to help out a significant other with something ONCE. It’s another thing to depend on someone else (anyone) for your basic survival.
This woman is supporting you. And you have the nerve to complain about it! Stop complaining if you choose accept this support from her.July 17, 2019 at 9:39 am #757254
This is just Stephen being his own uncreative self.July 17, 2019 at 12:30 pm #757266
“She should be making me look better not like some loser.” If you don’t want to feel like a loser then stop being one!! You have watched your girlfriend in 2 years WORK to get her license, a car, an apartment, work 2 jobs and now work on her college education! All the while you just sat back and took money from her for your mortgage and your car note? Here’s a novel idea… PAY HER BACK and you won’t have been a loser mooching off of her!!
I have absolutely no sympathy for a man who can’t have his act together at 33! Unless you are physically or mentally disabled or taking care of a family member who is you have no excuse to not be working 2 jobs yourself!! My ex husband sat on his a$$ not working for the last 8 years of our marriage. His laziness and lack of ambition made me resent him and have absolutely no respect for him. My current husband has such a strong work ethic he can’t even imagine a man living off a woman or how I would put up with it for so long.
I’m not talking about her buying you some gifts or clothes, I’m talking about you taking money from her to pay YOUR BILLS!! Of course it’s emasculating. Why can’t you do for yourself? I hope you get embarrassed enough to actually do something about it. Get a side hustle and pay her back then save up enough to take her on a vacation and thank her for all her help. BE A MAN!!July 17, 2019 at 1:23 pm #757273
Kito’s girlfriend is one in a trillion. She has woman’d up! She has whole-heartedly embraced equality unlike 99.999% of women who want,no DEMAND to be babied from cradle to the grave.
Men have done absolutely everything for women since time immemorial! Are women the slightest bit grateful? No they despise men. They show their intense hatred of men by become as physically, psychologically, emotionally and morally as ugly as possible.
Men should now sit back and take,take,take from women for the next 10,000 years. It is time for women to exhaust themselves in meaningless work. It is time for them to lose their hair, suffer heart attacks at 45 and work, work work for men only to come home nightly to a defiant,spiteful, accusatory, greedy and psychologically abusive spouse.July 17, 2019 at 2:48 pm #757281
This is just the opposite angle of that poster who was doing overtime for her guy because he couldn’t get a loan.
Relationships are about balance and partnership. What do you give her that is equivalent to all she gives you?