My friend is rude

One of my girl friends can have a “know it all” rude demeanor and I never know how to take it. Sometimes she’s sweet and nice. Other times she corrects you, tells you things, like a know it all. My friend went to school for psychology. She works with mentally challenged children, not adults. She thinks she is a psych expert.

I’ll be talking to my girl friends, her included, and I’ll say something about how I have been trying to stick to a diet so I can be a bit smaller in size, because summer is coming and so are bikini bathing suits. Thats my personal opinion of myself and my own health.

She will stop, and almost correct me, and saying how being smaller just to wear a bathing suit is wrong and she tries to correct my speech telling me what I should say instead and how I should think instead. I don’t like that. I am smart. She makes me feel stupid like I don’t know how to speak. I am just making girl friend conversation like “oh gosh summer is coming better get in shape for bathing suits”

Like being casual and down to earth. Thats how I am. And I’m real. And if I want to look better in a bathing suit then I should be able to say it without being scolded by her. I shouldn’t be scolded for saying diet instead of “getting healthy” as she puts it

Last night we started speaking and hanging out. We did start having an in depth discussion. She goes all into her know it all attitude. I almost get passive and like a scared puppy around her, because if she says something like “I think I saw the mortgage rate is 3% for new home buyers” and I get so scared to tell her its 3.5%.”

I feel like I can’t be myself around her or our other friends, due to her corrections, rudeness, and know it all attitude. So last night, I said how I really felt about a topic. And I was trying to just express myself. I said to myself that I wouldn’t be scared anymore. She tried to go after me for my opinion. It got heated, and at one point she was talking, I pointed out a quick point about something she was saying and she pretty much scolded me saying rudely “I’m not done yet” with her finger in the air like a school teacher scolding a student in the most rude way I can imagine. I wasn’t raised that way. I don’t speak to people like that, I don’t say things to people like that. I don’t belittle people. I’m an adult.

I had to stop myself from going off on her. I wanted to yell at her that how dare she speak to me in that way and who did she think she is. We are both adults, she isn’t my mother. I stopped myself and became that scared puppy. I hated myself for it, but I also didn’t want to start a fight with her.

I’m sick of the rudeness. I’m sick of the being afraid. She is a good friend, but she has an attitude problem that pops up randomly. She thinks she is a psychologist, which isn’t true at all. I’m a 28 year old woman, I’m smart, I have a higher educational background, and I know a lot. I don’t like being made to feel like I need to change my wording, view point, or mindset and I would never make anyone feel bad for what they say or how they feel.