My boyfriend told me i was too independent

It will make him feel good to help you. He will feel needed, wanted and trusted. It can create a tighter bond if you allow him to step in and help you out now and then. If he’s offering, allow him to help out! Start small, to see if he’s one that expects something back from it, or one that makes you never forget he did something for you every time there’s an argument (exhausting!). Otherwise, it’s not good to let a man feel useless in a relationship.

Without more context it’s hard to say much. But I agree with the posters that have said your boyfriend needs to feel needed and trusted in the relationship. Making him feel useless or like he can’t do anything for you is not the way to go.

I don’t know how old you are or how long you’ve been dating, but if you always run to your family with your problems instead of confiding in him (which seems to be what he is saying), it will affect your relationship. I have a friend whose marriage ended in large part to the fact that his wife put her family first and constantly leaned on them (emotionally and socially), instead of treating her husband as her partner and teammate in the marriage. She put her husband beneath her parents and siblings, basically, on an emotional and social level. She did not prioritize her relationship with him. And in a marriage you can’t do that, your spouse is supposed to be your partner in life.

Again, without more information it’s hard to really comment on this. Do you feel he’s trying to control you and keep you from your family? Or do you tend to run to your family instead of allowing him to support you and be vulnerable with him?

Guys are action oriented. Asking him to help carry furniture/move etc. would be/is the kind of thing most guys want to do/help with. I aslo agtree that you need a balance between family and a signifigant other. Tell him you would love some help and give him a task..