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Mimi
I broke with my boyfriend a few years ago. We didn’t contact each other for a long time until we met each other at a college reunion. He did approach me and try to talk to me but we were interrupted many times and could not have a proper conversation. We work in different states and so we couldn’t meet again. Soon he took my number from someone and texted me. We texted regularly and soon I could feel my old feelings come back. But then all of a sudden he just stopped. He didn’t text me very often and only contacted me to wish me for my mother’s and brother’s birthday. Even when I thanked him for the wishes, he didn’t even bother reading or replying to them. Almost a month later, he texted me and though I was frustrated and angry with his hot and cold behavior, I didn’t let it on. I was so angry with him that I led him to believe that I was dating someone else when in reality I was not. Now I regret it so bad and I can’t accept it to him that I lied. But I can not just get it off my head and it’s troubling me so much. Next week I am going back home and he told me that he would be back home during the same time and that he wants to meet me. What do I do now?
Ewa
he’s got your number! secondly why were you frustrated? he is not your bf he doesn’t have to reply to your texts, I have friends who sometimes reply after a month or 2 weeks and I am not angry with them because they are just friends and we all have lives?
you clearly thought something might happen again between you. But you don’t know he might be the one dating someone else now.
It’s up to you really, if you want to text him saying you’re back home would be good to meet or you can just go home and enjoy the time with your family. But you have to be prepared that he might not answer …Mimi
To be honest, I felt like things would work out between us this time and that we might get together. Maybe this is the reason why I got frustrated. And he has already asked to meet me. I have not replied to it yet. But he might just be asking to meet as friends because we were very good friends before we dated. But what angers me is that I lied to him that I am dating someone else. I want to let him know that it was not true but I also don’t want him to think that I was desperate that I lied to him.
Ewa
you can always say that you were dating but that didn’t work out. I know it is still a lie… depends how you feel about lying or you can be honest and say you just wanted some time to yourself
Mimi
Thanks. If he brings it up, then I will tell him that I needed to sort out my feelings and maybe I should stop all contact for a while until I am clear about where I stand. Because right now, I am not sure whether I like him because we met after so long and suddenly I remembered every single thing or because I never really got over him. He’s been on my mind a lot but I always thought that it was because he was the first.
Newbie
Why do want to accept his offer to meet? From ehat you are saying there is nothing to gain. You chit chatted a bit and then he didnt message in a month. Thats not the actions of an interested guy.
I know you probably cant resist it, but at least let him come up with a plan, and time and idea. Because i have the idea he wont even do that. Try to remember why you two broke up. There must have been reasons that are still valid i bet -
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