I got too clingy and he dumped me..how to get him back?

& why do you want this guy back?

Why did get on well and had fun but he kept his guard up.
I thought we were getting close then he backed away.
He never gave us a chance

I thought I could change him.
I thought if he spent time with me he would stop.
He was sleeping with a married woman (he knew she was married and just once )
I said to him,you have some one who genuinely cares about you and would look after you and you don’t want it.

Is this for real? This guy is an as/shole and the moment you finally stood up for yourself and told him you deserve better is the moment you apologized for? Of course you deserve better. This guy was stringing you along, messing with your feelings and you acted like a doormat really not saying so long earlier. What guy goes sleeping with girls and then show it to another girl? A gutter guy

No, you have done this to yourself by being foolish, a doormat, etc. Quit crying and smarten up. You have chased and begged a looser. It’s on you, can’t you see that?

He has ZERO RESPECT for you. For a man, respect is a key factor in how they see or think about a woman and thought zero of you or he wouldn’t have been shoving all these woman in your face knowing you fancied him.

He IS an ASS, you called it, and now its time to regain your dignity back and never ever allow yourself to be treated like a doormat nor give any attention to a man who has zero respect for you. This was a life lesson. These are the lessons you need to learn or you are going to have a very difficult road ahead of you. I understand how it is to be crushing on someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you and I also understand how it feels to be crushed on by someone I don’t have those feelings for either. Only when the feeling are MUTUAL can it lead to something, if not, best to avoid them like they are the plague in which he could be full of STD’s and passing them around…BIG YUCK!

You need to get a load of SELF LOVE for yourself and not take any kind of bad treatment from men.. You may need help with this I surmise. Seek out info on self love and get into a counseling group to learn about it(if you can’t afford regular counseling. It is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

he was just flirting with you, stringing you along. he was never ever serious about you. and the reason he was able to string you along and throwing crumbs your way was bec you let him. why wld you want to chase a man who is blatantly screwing women right in front of you? he knew you liked him a lot but he wasn’t sure about his feelings for you. any decent man would have atleast given some consideration to your feelings and been discrete about his affairs. the problem here is that till you learn to respect yourself, you cant expect others to respect you. you agreed to hang around despite his bad behaviour. and that was the biggest problem. anyways we all have behaved like a fool at some point in our lives. that’s ok. just dust him off your mind and heart and walk away. you deserve so much more. believe that. cut him out.

The worst part is when I rang him on Saturday he was speaking to me horrible.
He said he told me from the start we weren’t together and I said sorry.
Then I said can we just be friends,and he said we have never been friends.
I said you’ve been in my life for months now,I don’t want to fall out with you,I’m having lots of problems in my life and I could do with a friend.
He hung up then text saying
“I don’t want to ever see you again,we aren’t friends”
I asked why he was being so nasty and that I was really hurt.
Then he said he wasn’t talking about it anymore and I need to calm down.
Just a week ago he was being lovely to me,now he’s treating me like I’m nothing.
I can’t eat,sleep or nothing.
Pains in my stomach.
I don’t know what to do.
Fair enough he doesn’t want to be with me but we spoke all the time..I thought we were friends if nothing else.

First off, he brought drama upon his own stupid self. He offered the chance for a relationship, then was annoyed that you reacted badly when he slept and was hitting on other women. He sounds insecure as it gets. Plenty of guys out there who are good people but only want casual and they keep that line very clear. He dangled a relationship to keep you in the mix.

You dodged a bullet. You do not want that back unless you want a relationship with a man you do not trust not to cheat. And he will be back when he has a slot in his harem.

The only thing you did wrong was fall for an insecure POS who wasn’t that into you. Relationships and moving towards them are based on actions not words. All of his actions speak loudly that you were very disposable to him because most women would have walked.

If you want this guy back you have bigger problems.
He was disrespectful and distasteful.

Be glad things are over. What man tells you he is sleeping with other women and then flaunts it in your face? Were you not worried about STD’S?

He was testing you to see how much crap you would take from him.

If he reaches out do not respond or see him ever again.

And please work on yourself, there was no reason to be in a situation like this.

Seriously. You can do better.

Can you forget about how you feel about him for a minute or two and look at the facts?

-he was sleeping with other people every weekend.
-he started screen shooting texts girls had sent (who he had slept with )
– He practically ignored me all night then I caught him all over a girl in front of me.
-He was sleeping with a married woman
-he said we have never been friends
-I don’t want to ever see you again,we aren’t friends

Does that sound like a guy who was ever into you and wants to even come back?

I’m sorry you’re hurt, I think you should stop caring. He’s on the road to contracting HIV and you want him back?! Gross.