How to cope after being ghosted after few months of dating

I get so tired of the “needy” label. It’s a part of being in a relationship- you expect your partner to be present and available. And you are there for them. If a person does not want to be present and available, they need to NOT be in relationships or communicate their level of availability.

Too many women completely bend to men’s needs and try and play this cool girl who never needs. The funny thing is that when a man decides he wants to be present, THAT is a turnoff. I had a conversation with a guy I had a LDR with- I felt needy, he was avoidant, then I withdrew to being polite and well, less needy. Then he was all “your passion seems not there, you used to be so into this”. Well, duh, you pushed me away. He actually wanted a woman in “chase” mode because he is insecure AF.

Bottom line, ghosting, withdrawing, an inability to be present are all issues with your boyfriend. Healthy men and women communicate in relationships and don’t make you feel needy. They may not always be as present as you want, but they admit that and do not blame you.

So take it from me, I have dealt with too many avoidants and they will MESS you up and make you feel bad about yourself. They will also never fully disconnect- they will pull you in, then push you away. Unless you like that manipulation, fully check out and disconnect.

Thanks everyone for all the advices, they are very helpful and totally make sense! I will remove him from IG and just carry on with my life. It will probably hurt for some time but will get over it soon.