His best friends wife is a problem, advice?


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    Mave

    My boyfriend and i have been together about 8 months now. Ive met his friends and honestly theyre all great, except the wife of his best friend. I was willing to befriend this women, and give her a chance even after she offended me and rubbed my the wrong way twice, before i had even physically met her.

    The first time she found out about me, i was on the phone with my boyfriend, i heard her in the background asking who he was talking to (they were headed to a birthday dinner for her, and i called him while they were all in the car, i was on my way home from work) i overheard her in the back wondering if i “was even legal” because i was younger then my boyfriend. Later that night i was informed that this women was trying to sit on my boyfriends lap, he told her no and said to her “that seat is reserved.” and he had no clue why she even tried to do it he said, apparently she got mad when he told her she wasnt allowed to sit on his lap.

    A few months later we all went camping together (they have a 4 year old daughter my boyfriend and i aren’t huge into kids) when we went for a walk to get ice cream, the daughter wanted to be carried by the wife, this women insisted on having her daughter ask my boyfriend to carry her, even though the father of this kid was stansinf right next to us. My boyfriend declined and again the wife was upset that she had to carry her own child.

    Shortly after that weord situation, the wife started complaining about me to my boyfriend, saying she didn’t like wjat i posted on Facebook and that i was tpo negative about my job (i work retail, it was a holiday weekend) so after a long period of thought i decoded just to unfriend fhis women, if she didnt like what i posted or did then why keep her arpund so she can keep complaining about me to my significant other? Needle2to say, she found out i defriended her and got mad and went right to my boyfriend about it.

    She will also randomly text paragraphs to my boyfriend telling him about what her daughter did that day too. Which at first disnt bother me, but now all this stuff is starting to pile up and im getting annoyed with it.

    Im not sure how to really handle this sort of thing? I respect that she is married to my boyfriends besy friend and he isn’t really friends with her specifically. She just seems to have this weird crush like thing on him and I dont know how to bring it up to him without sounding jealous? It tends to make me uncomfortable and it’s not like i dont trust him because i do. She ia just incredibly agrivating to me and i personally dont like her.

    Any words of advice would help.

    #775806 Reply
    Bets

    Ignore it. Just be nice to her and let her play out her game. Don’t waste any more energy letting her bother u, choose to be happy. Getting mad or upset isn’t going to change anything. This is your chance to show how confident u are, and men love confident women.

    #775808 Reply
    Raven

    Your BF seems to do a good job of deflecting her…

    Let it go-

    #775838 Reply
    redcurleysue

    This is an unhappy woman. To combat her you have to remain happy. Your boyfriend will absorb the difference between her behaviors and yours. Take the high road here, invite her and her daughter to the zoo for an outing and focus on the child and her happiness. Your boyfriend will take note on your loving attitudes towards others….he will devalue her obvious jealous issues. Take her and her child out once in a while and be charming to both. Post pictures and cute captions of your outings. Be innocent and guile free. Kill her with kindness.

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