Heartbreak while dating

If a guy has no interest in moving it forward there is no point in saying we can try again In a few week. In fact you could even say its disrespectful to not hear the guy at all and keep to your agenda. Somewhere along the line he didnt enjoy your company anymore. Could be in him, could have been he felt you pushed him. But the endresult is the same: its not a match for him. If you check 7 steps a guy falls in love you can see he fits this timeframe in where he made up his mind.
So its ok to be hurt en be sad. But never go into begging or pleading mode. Thats really making it worse. Who wants to be friends with someone who begs you to be their friend: no one. Walk away with your head high.
In the future: if you date someone for 3 months and its still not exclusive, its going nowhere. He probably came up with those busy/sick lines after you asked again where this was going.

Sorry to hear this happened. It is a yucky feeling .
The good news is you don’t need to waste anymore time.
It’s quite clear this isn’t going anywhere . Cut your losses, thank the lucky stars this didn’t happen one year or more in, and open yourself up to meeting new people.
This has happened to all of us and is a part of dating . From this, you would have learned some things about yourself .

I forgot to add: the whole “work is stressing me out” line is just a way to let you down easy. It’s also a load of BS. If a guy feels a romantic spark with you, work won’t get in the way. He will never use work as an excuse. When I met my bf he had a very stressful job and was working 50-60 hour weeks and he still found time to take me out a couple times a week, talk/text every day, and be very sweet/romantic.

When a guy uses that line, you should hear it for what it is: he doesn’t feel a spark and can’t be bothered to move the relationship forward, but is perfectly happy to spend time with you once in awhile and have sex without feeling the need to commit or deepen the connection. You don’t want to get stuck in a situation like that. You should beware the fact that this guy is willing to keep seeing you even though he knows you have feelings for him that he doesn’t reciprocate.

This sucks and I’m sure most of us have been there. I definitely have. A guy i had been seeing for 3 months basically said he was feeling “apprehensive” because whilst he liked me his last relationship had ended badly. Me being an idiot and really liking him said it was cool to just stay as we were. It was not cool because it wasn’t what i wanted. It dragged out a few more weeks but basically the guy knew he had me on a string and i had basically given him the green light to do what he wanted. What he wanted was to meet up for sex when he had a space and competely ignore me inbetween. I was really green when it came to dating and this guy is actually how i ended up on this forum.

I ended after taking advice from the ladies on here and recognising where i had gone wrong. I was left feeling used and bruised…. but actually i had to take responsibility and recognise that this man did not use me at all! He just took what was on offer because he liked me, but he didn’t like me enough to be all in. Of course i was left feeling I’d messed things up by having a DTR but all i did really was hasten the ending of something that was not going anywhere. I was a time filler. My mistake was not recognising that sooner and letting myself down by basically going into bargaining mode hopefully thinking he might change his mind. This was well over a year ago and i still feel a sting of humiliation when i think about the fact that i didn’t respect myself enough to just walk away when he said he was “apprehensive” and gave his bullsh*t reason.

I’m telling you this as you’ve said you don’t really want advice or criticism but hopefully you can see the parallels to your situation and recognise that this is not going to end well for you.

Just to add, whilst i feel a sting of humiliation i feel nothing at all for him… he is dust and i genuinely have thought about him just now for the first time in absolutely ages. The sting feeling is because i should have known better then to lose dignity and essentially beg!

Stick around here, you will learn so much! Dating is still pretty crushing at times but generally I’ve learnt to date smarter,to not leave myself open as an option for men to date but to see myself as the one doing the vetting and choosing. It takes practice but a poster on here recommends giving zero fu*ks about a man until he is your bf and it seriously has been a saviour to me to learn to think that way. Also read why men love bitc*es.

Sorry you are hurting and best of luck x

Yeah i also liked ss comment a lot. Hope it helps, we all done it