He tried to finish inside of me and I’m on birth control

What are your ages please…

RUN!!! He is crazy.

I would run from this one as he is far too insecure and will make a bad BF. He’s the type who will be tracking your every move, accuse you of cheating if you do things without him, like hang out with your gal pals, and constantly be telling you not to ‘leave him’ every time he knows he’s stepped over normal boundaries like he did with you here by pressuring you into sex.

If you decide to stay (stick it out) then you MUST set stronger independent boundaries as yours are very weak. Do not engage in his ‘don’t leave me diatribe’ when he uses it against you (its a form or control btw) just look him dead in the eyes and tell him point blank “I will leave you the moment I feel disrespected or this relationship isn’t working for me.”

This will be a short-term power play type of relationship. I do believe women need to experience these types of men so they can sharpen their *guydar* to know (learn) what type of men to stay away from as they navigate the dating minefield. The best lessons in life are learned through experience so the best advice I can give you, at your age, is to keep your wits (head) about you, boundaries very strong (one of our regulars Newbie says to read “why Men love Bitches” that could help you with those), and walk away the moment you feel its not going in a good direction. The worst thing you could do at your age is stay with the wrong type of guy’s or in unhealthy relationships for too long as you could develop *co-dependent* traits that will be very toxic to you.

In general, when you meet a man who gives you those weird spidey sense vibes (aka intuition) do not ignore them, especially with guy’s who come on very strong in the beginning! You do not sleep with those guy’s but pay more attention by observing them over a good period of time so you can keep your wits/head about you. Sleeping with a man can mess your head up really bad as women release a strong mixture of numerous hormones such as oxytocin, seritonin, dopamine, etc. (men do not) that are the same one’s that bond a woman to her newborn child! It is very powerful stuff (aka “love hormones”) that should only be released (have sex) when you feel very sure, safe and confident with the overall treatment a man has been giving you over a good amount of time (at least two to three months) that doesn’t involve any pressure from the man. If they do, drop him like a hot potato!

Always use the WORDS + ACTIONS = TRUTH formula with a man. Does he do what he says and says what he will do at least 95% + of the time? [Need to give a tiny bit of wiggle room]. Are those words and actions normal (healthy standards) for the amount of time you’ve known each other? If so then its safer to sleep with a man, if not, you just don’t. Good luck :o)