Ghosting / Loosing Interest – Unanswered


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  • #790002
    IDiva

    Scenario
    I was talking to a guy last year dec, met for the first time in feb,
    the meeting was great, we spoke and texted after that.
    It was very light hearted fun conversations…
    but then the day Lockdown was announced..he ignores my existence. LOL
    Normal conversation, started by the guy, I text him , and then he is online..but doesn’t respond ( cool everyone has things to do..or life !)
    Doesn’t care to reply or even see the text for a week.
    It definitely bothers me, thinking did I said or did anything wrong. I keep my calm after two weeks of NO REPLY..i reached him..if everything was OK, he responded casually..and then again NO TEXT.
    It has been more than a month, but it still makes me think ..WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?

    #790005
    Andrea

    Sounds like he was primarily hoping for sex. Since that’s not a possibility now because of the lockdown, he figures why put forth any effort or attention. You should thank your lucky stars you got to find out his intention now instead of way later.

    #790009
    Raven

    You met him once?

    #790014
    IDiva

    Met him almost 2 weeks before lockdown I was not having hopes or fancy dreams..just amused and felt like a STUPID and a little hurt…
    I didn’t text him again after I reached out to him once, I know this is not the expected behavior which I can be OK with in short or long run. I don’t know if I needed a closure ( I can’t ask him or anyone who I have met once) or a simple text “hey, it’s not working”.

    I know action speaks louder than words…but then why not straight up conversation.

    #790015
    J123

    It could just be a difficult time with Coronavirus. Maybe once things return to normal he’ll reach out.

    #790017
    Idiva

    @J123 i thought the same…but someone who just disappears while having a normal conversation …will you reset/resume things ?

    #790018
    J123

    Yes, I’ve had it happen to me. Sometimes I’ll hear back other times never to be heard from again.

    #790019
    Nitya

    I think you seem pretty confident and rational, there is nothing wrong what you did, you got connected online if he didn’t take an initiative you did…most likely he was not interested in you earlier that’s why he didn’t initiate. But you being extrovert took the call ..way to go girl ! :) , but that didn’t change his perception of people who wants to date or meet. He probably had no plans so took your offer to meet ( or made it work) but he doesn’t want to take a stab unless and until you do..

    so girl, it’s on you ..do you want to chase him..1 meeting in dating world is just as starter many times you have good time but it never leads to second or thirds..

    so I would suggest you too focus on yourself :) don’t think what he thinks, why didn’t he …just you did you get to know this guy enough…dont biuold positive or negative fantacies..just let it go and flow

    #790021
    Tallspicy

    You don’t know if you need closure from someone you met once and was texting???

    Honey, you should just assume most men with disappear. That way you are not surprised when it happens. It is called the 0 fu$ks rule of dating. Until a man is your boyfriend, you simply don’t care. You wait to see if he leads and if he continues.

    He did not. So nothing about you.

    #790022
    Tallspicy

    Also, someone you only dated once is telling you things are not working by their actions, they do not need to say it in words. It is not reasonable to expect a stranger to break up with you. Yes, it would be nice, but unreasonable to expect.

    #790023
    IDiva

    You guys are so empowering ! :)

    @Andrea, @J123, @Nitya, @TallSpicy

    You are Diamonds !!!
    Stay Safe Happy and Blessed <3

    #790041
    Misty

    J123 makes a point, this might be due to pandemic.
    If he comes back have a normal conversation but don’t wait on him because we don’t know when the lockdown ends. If he has done it once, he will undoubtedly do it again.
    Even if he gives you a convincing reason..you shouldn’t entertain him the same way..he is highly Low Key value..whose opinion or existence shouldn’t matter anymore.

    Kudos to You to not text and throw yourself at him for answers !

    Fix your Tiara and Sing Thank you, Next.

    #790069
    ANM Staff
    Keymaster

    IDiva, I noticed that you are also posting as Misty and Nitya in this same thread. What’s up with that?

    Don’t do that.

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