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    Emma

    Hello, a friendship of 7 years recently just ended. The story involves mainly two girls, let’s call them Nikki and lily. I met nikki and lily in High school and became best friends. But last year nikki started to get depressed as she couldn’t get a job, her relationship was going south and wasn’t doing well socially either. She then got depression and turned to alcohol. Sometimes she would even say stuff like she didn’t belong in this world. I was really concerned so I texted her occasionally to see how she was doing and told her she’ll always have a friend in me. I felt so so sad as she was my best friend and I loved her so much but she started picking fights and being rude to me several ocassions over texts. Lily was clueless. On New Years eve, all three of us met up along with lily. Nikki acted like nothing happened, hugging me, laughing with me with apologising for being rude to me months before. I told lily about it and she called me rude for ‘bad mouthing her’. I felt alone in this. Lily didn’t see what was happening with nikki and was so wrapped up with her new boyfriend, clubbing/partying and looking hot.

    The truth is nikki got annoyed because she said I was interrogating her over the texts. All I did was ask how she was doing, what was going, and how she was handling things? Was I in the wrong for caring about my best friend when she’s depressed and saying stuff like the world would be a better place without me? Anyway, she basically told me to she no longer cares about me and ghosted me… Just sad that it ended when I had done nothing wrong, and that lily did not see any of it. Any advise on how to not get over this?

    #792420 Reply
    kaye

    First of all, when people are depressed and unhappy with their life they can say and do things they wouldn’t normally do. Like get aggravated about you “interrogating” them when you were really concerned about their welfare. Nikki needs your friendship now more than ever. If it were me, I would let her cool down a bit and then extend an olive branch. If you truly did nothing wrong and she is ready to apologize then she will. She apologized for being rude before, so why do you really think this is the end? If it were me I would reach out and tell her that I’m not sure what I did to upset her, but as I said before she always has a friend in me.

    #792426 Reply
    Emma

    *without apologising- sorry that was a typo.

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