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Missybunny
There’s a guy called K. We met in a party years back and starting out as friends. He has a girlfriend for years and is quite known for a jealous and insecure type (I witnessed she stormed off in a party). I know K has been fond of me for some time, cause he has been praising me and asking about me in front of our mutual friends and I just enjoyed being adored.
2 months ago I drunk call him in a bar and he came picked me up and sent me home. Then we went on a date and I slept with him. His girlfriend and he were on an on-and- off relationship. K moved out of their place and they were broken up as she found out K cheated on him.
K had stood me up on a date a month ago and I cut all connection with him afterwards. But yesterday I met him when the friends hanged out on a beach and we just couldn’t get our hands off each other. He brought me to his place and introduced me to his new roommate. I know he and his girlfriend are back together but I just couldn’t help it. While he has posting new photos of his girlfriend, he was cheating on her with me in his place.
I knew this is wrong and I have such complicated feelings. Also I wonder how could a guy behave like that? He acted like it’s totally ok for him to cheat. What should I do to overcome this? I tried to move on, I thought I did in that month but once I saw him, the feelings are back.
Raven
You 2 are made for each other!
mama
A guy like that can behave like that because he’s a douche who does not give a f!ck about anyone but himself. What you should do is lose his number. Then take a long, hard look in the mirror at why you are dredging the bottom of the man pool. Then work on yourself to develop a sense of self-worth (women who value themselves aren’t the side-piece, they are the one and only main attraction). Learn how feelings are not dictators of behavior. Figure out some goals for yourself and where you want your life to go. Once you have all that cemented in your mind and heart, find a man who isn’t involved in a relationship.
Quality women find quality men. The opposite is true as well, but you can turn that around for yourself.
Alice
@Missbunny,
You reap what you sew. Remember, Karma will find you.
Who cares why he cheats or what how he feels about you. Does it really matter? A guy like that doesn’t have the capacity to value anyone but himself.
So you’re clearly attracted to him & he is you. Won’t change a damn thing. Even if he breaks up with his gf and you two become exclusive, he will just cheat on you too. That’s how those guys are and they don’t apologize for it. I mean you said yourself he was posting pics of her while screwing around with you.
Stop seeing this guy, have some self-respect. The same heartbreak his gf will eventually face once she finds out he’s a cheater is something that could happen to you one day. Again, Karma. You’re the side girl, maybe even one among many.
K
Loser is as loser does.
Don’t want to be a loser or sleep with a loser? Stop doing loser behavior and getting involved in other losers in loser situations. As Mama said, you need to take a long hard look at why you’re “dredging the bottom of the man pool.” Great way to put it.
What should you do to “overcome” this? SMH. You’ve got very low self-esteem and weak values right now. Work on that. And develop some pride and self control – no one can do that for you but you.
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