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Lilla
Hey!
I need a quick advice on this:
I went on two dates with this guy, we were gonna go. on 3rd one, he cancelled and never rescheduled. I kinda wrote it off as a blow off (as this was 10 days ago now) and it is fine the question is something else.
I went to his place the second time and I have lost my ring most likely there – I got it from my granddad for my 18th birthday and it has a huge emotional value (as well as due to the stone in it – actual value too) to me.
I remember wearing it on the date and then I can’t find it over the past 10 days.
I looked every single place I have been, everywhere at home, this is literally the only place I have not checked.
We did not “end” on bad terms, in fact seeing I was ill on Instagram he did message me asking if I was ok, so I guess we are cool.Question is:
I really, at any cost wanna avoid him thinking I am trying to get in touch with him but I am dying to know if maybe my ring is somewhere at his place. I just hate the thought of him thinking I am making this up to talk to him etc, I really do not wanna give off a certain vibe and I do not know what to do now.Thank you
Anderson
Does it really matter what vibe you give off to him if you want nothing to do with him? Unless you want to keep him open as a possibility to date again in the future or it’s one of those saving-face/ego things
If I received a text from a girl I briefly dated who said something like, “Hey. This is kind of awkward for me to ask but since it’s very important to me… I’ve been checking everywhere possible. I lost my ring etc etc etc” I would believe her instead of thinking she was being sneakily desperate. Good luck
Lilla
To be fair – if he asked me out I wouldn’t mind seeing him again. So it’s not like I wanna shut the door, I would just rather wanna gin with the flow either way.
But I’m worried I’ll ruin the chance and seem desperate.Newbie
Have you lost the ring at someone elses house before? You remember fidgetting with it or taking it off? Because its not that easy to lose a ring. I think there is a higher change its at your house. At least thats my experience. But i dont see nothing wrong with Andersons suggestion to ask him to look for it on places it can be.
Zoe
Dont use this excuse to see him. If he liked you he would’ve messaged you for 3rd datE
Liz Lemon
Your 2nd date was a home date at his house? You didn’t go to a restaurant or out somewhere where you might have lost it?
I agree that if you really don’t care what he thinks, just ask him, as Anderson said. I will say, if you slept together on the 2nd date (which maybe you did? If you were at his house and were active enough to have lost a ring….), he will probably think you’re trying to get his attention, yes. But if you truly don’t care what he thinks, that doesn’t matter. I would think if he had found a ring he would have contacted you, but who knows.
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