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Kimmy Graham
Basically I have been in a relationship with this guy 2 years..
we have a child and another on the way.
But about 5 months ago we broke up because he had cheated on me more than once.
And I had acted very very bad towards this which is rightly so as I was upset and I couldn’t believe the man I loved done that to me.
He doesn’t want to get back or fix things because to him it’s over … I know I shouldn’t be chasing but I am because I’m wanting my family back really bad…
And he does do a lot for me now that we are broke up he still comes down and chills with me and we have days out with our son and spend days like a family .. he keeps saying he wishes he could have his family back but it isn’t right and everytime we have an argument it’s straight away he says “this is why I’ll never get back with you” why would he say that when he doesn’t even want me full stop?
I’m so confused I’m 16 weeks pregnant too which sucks :(
Has anyone had any success stories or any advice ? I don’t want bashed I know he’s cheated but that’s my choice to deal with that … help…kaye
You broke up 5 months ago, but you’re 4 months pregnant. Hmmmmmm….so you slept with him after he cheated on you!! What incentive does he have to be with you if he can hang out with you and have sex without being committed to you or your family and still be with other women?
He doesn’t want to get back together and says it’s over. And every time you argue it just reinforces to him he doesn’t want you back. My guess is you thought getting pregnant again would make him stay or come back. It didn’t. Stop having sex with him and letting him have all the benefits of you without being in a relationship with you! Cut him off entirely from hanging out with you. If he wants to see his son let him pick him up and take him somewhere.
Not sure why you want this jerk back but your only hope is to entirely cut him off and make him miss you. There’s no guarantee that will make him want you make but I can guarantee it’s not working the way you’re doing it!!
cupcake
You need to move on from this. The man and the idea of being a family with this man. He does not want to ( for whatever reason) and you wont change his mind. Whatever his illusions about getting back his “family” are they are clearly not insync with reality. And is that really what you want out of a family? A man who doesn’t love you, who cheats on you and doesn’t want to be a family? Think about it! What do you get out of other than pain and misery. Much better to accept the break-up, move on and find someone who truly wants to be with you and your children.
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