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May 16, 2018 at 11:45 am #702685
I have been seeing this guy for about a month now. We both are college students so with the summer coming we agreed that we are just friends for right now. When he isn’t on campus, he lives 5 hours away from me. But we have been going out on dates, texting 24/7, etc. Yesterday we decided to get intimate together and he mentioned that he really like me and “wishes things were different and he didn’t have to leave for summer break.” I obviously feel the same, but I’m afraid of saying anything. I don’t want to mess up the “friendship,” but at the same time I also don’t want to just be friends. We are supposed to go out on another date tomorrow. Should I say something to him? Another part of me thinks maybe I should just break if off now. I think that’s just the part of me that doesn’t want to get hurt. So if you were in my situation, what would you do? Thanks!
May 16, 2018 at 1:26 pm #702710
wait until next semester before having sex with him. Let him miss you. Then you can see how you both feel and decide then.May 16, 2018 at 5:11 pm #702758
I agree with Emma.May 16, 2018 at 5:20 pm #702760
Do not have sex!!! Sex will bond you to him the same way a mother bond to their child (its powerful hormones) but men don’t have them so they don’t bond that way which is he having sex is very dangerous if your not in a relationship.
Go on the date, keep sex off the table (stay off the hormonal crazy train) and see what happens when he returns. You said he was 5 hours away., how did you meet?May 16, 2018 at 5:44 pm #702766
We met through school. We live on campus. Where he lives when he’s not at school is 5 hrs away. We were intimate yesterday but we did not go all the way. I agree I should take it off the table completely until next semester if I decide to pursue anything.May 16, 2018 at 5:56 pm #702767
Good! But you do not pursue anything. Carefully listen, watch and observe him, remain neutral until HE brings the topics up. Only pursue a relationship if enpicks you first and then you choose him and become a couple—-until then your SINGLE, a free agent, and need to act like one. My father thankfully was my dating guru 😁May 16, 2018 at 8:26 pm #702805
It sounds like you want a relationship and he wants to be friends with benefits. It’s worth telling him, I’ve had a lot of fun. I understand if you’re not ready for a relationship, but this situation isn’t working for me. I’m ok with however you feel. What do you think about being exclusive?” If he balks or makes excuses, walk away. if he stakes his claim on you, you may have a keeper.