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    Angel

    Hi all, I recently just got out of a very toxic relationship with my boyfriend of nine months. We started out great, it was very simple and almost innocent in the beginning. Shortly after we became exclusive, I noticed he was a very controlling boyfriend type. He claimed I was too protective over my phone, and would ask to see my messages. And he wouldn’t take no for an answer. He would show up at my apartment even if I told him not to, and at my job as well. I became pushed away by this behavior and cheated on him, about three months into the relationship. No, I will not excuse myself or my behavior. It was a mistake I regret very deeply. Yes, I know this all seems very early into the relationship and it was. Should have known things would crash and burn.
    We broke up for 2 weeks after I cheated and then got back. Things were OK until our relationship became slightly long distance, and the roles reversed. I became the “crazy” one as he pulled away. Last weekend he took a girl home from the bar, but didn’t sleep with her. We decided to break up after that although I admit I’m having an extremely hard time.
    My side of the relationship is this: this man manipulated me, controlled me, and tried with everything to mold me into the perfect girlfriend. As soon as I changed for him, he decided it was “too late” and “lost his feelings” for me.
    I am hurt because despite all of this drama, we actually had a very, very deep emotional connection which is what kept us together. I am also angry, considering he forced so much of this on me and now wants to be the one to walk away from this like it’s nothing. Need advice

    #781573 Reply
    Celine

    Give it some time.If it takes longer than you’re comfortable with, you could try some recovery vitamin D :), always works for me.

    #781574 Reply
    Raven

    Why would you want to be with a person such as this?!
    Seriously…

    #781580 Reply
    kaye

    Let me get this straight. In the span of 9 short months, he became controlling, manipulated you, you cheated on him, broke up, got back together to where you because the crazy jealous one instead of him which then pushes him to bring some girl home from the bar and NOW you two break up and you’re angry he ended it?

    Which part of this is “very toxic” and “this man manipulated me, controlled me, and tried with everything to mold me into the perfect girlfriend” are you not getting?!?!? These are your words not mine. Of course you’re hurt and angry because you cared about him. But you have to know this is the best end result.

    And you also need to take some responsibility in this. You say he forced all of this on you yet you could have left at any time. I think you need to look at your co-dependent behavior and why you allowed this to happen.

    #781591 Reply
    Ames

    Not sure what advice you need other than GTF away from him and you both need to see a therapist? He didn’t force you to cheat on him. He was psycho and you should have left him. PS are you sure he “didn’t sleep” with the girl he brought home from a bar? If he’s even telling the truth. Because 10 times out of 10 you don’t go home with a random person you met at a bar for cuddles and cookies. Just saying..

    #781592 Reply
    Better off single

    this man manipulated me, controlled me, and tried with everything to mold me into the perfect girlfriend. As soon as I changed for him, he decided it was “too late” and “lost his feelings” for me.

    So take this as a lesson. NEVER CHANGE FOR ANYONE.

    Why would you want to go back to that when you can find someone who isn’t so manipulative, hypercritical, controlling, and will accept you just the way you are?

    #781616 Reply
    redcurleysue

    Your relationship was broken a long time ago. Let go.

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