Bf asking for money

Why isn’t he working?
What is his plan to pay You back?
He’s not a good BF?

I would have zero issues with loaning my man or friends some money if they suddenly have issues they cant fix right away. I was in trouble a few years ago due to my house burning down without proper insurance. My friends didnt loan money, they gave it to me and im still eternally grateful.
But its a personal thing so its really up to you

If your role model is a man who worked 3 jobs and worked hard all his life, I don’t see how a boyfriend with no job and a violent history preventing him from getting a job is a good fit for you.

Your man is in a pickle, if this is the first time he asks, why struggling with your thoughts to help him? If it’s an ‘every man for himself’ thing when it comes to money then the relationship wont go far. So much resentment coming your way. Not saying you should give away all you have til you’re nothing, but you can clearly see he needs it at this time. If it was me, I’d help him, won’t even lend il give it to him. But only once. Then il help him in other ways like finding a job. This is the man you supposedly love, does it feel right with you to see him reaching the point where he has to ask you for that money, cause you’re right about pride, if he put it aside he really needs the help. Now if you help him this time but he keeps asking for more months down the line and he still haven’t been able to establish himself in a job then now I’d advise you not to.

Also I agree that you guys might not be a very good fit based on the values that you have for he is the complete opposite of it.

To be honest, I gave him $150 about 3 months ago.. And I told him that it was not in my values to do this. I even told him that I didnt want a refund.
Now its the second time.. He says if he did not have the car problem he would have never asked me.
I think it is too much for me. That is why i am so reluctant.
Im saying to myself maybe life will be always like that with him..
I am so annoyed I am in a reality that I might have waisted my time.
I am disappointed not only on him but on myself too

I’ve been with BF’s who were in a very tight spot financially but they never, and I mean never, asked me for money! A man who is deeply in love with their woman and trying to prove (show her) he would be a reliable provider, even in difficult times, would rather bite off their arm or hock (pawn) some goods to pay their debts than ask her for money.

You know there are much bigger issues here than just the money, its his inability to secure a job, or keep a job, and fully support himself. I highly suggest you invest your time with a man who can support himself or you’re going to end up supporting him. I am super picky and selective in this area, whereas I wouldn’t be with a man who didn’t have nor was working towards a solid and stable career. Trust me, knowing you can rely on a man to bring home the bacon, will be a huge burden off your shoulders, and cause little worry or stress in your life—there are enough stresses life and this is a major one you don’t need or want to plague a relationship.

I would seriously reconsider this man as a long-term potential, especially if you want a family, with a daddy who can’t work or get a job while your working 3 jobs to support him and the kids—that IS your and their future. Stick with your role model (dad who worked) or constantly fight and argue over $$$, your choice.

If you already gave him money before and it was a problem for you, don’t do it again.

I’m surprised he was willing to ask again after those tings you said to him.

I think this relationship isn’t a good fit because you value a hard working man. He has no job and is asking you for money.