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    AssassinK

    – a relationship of 3 years, all 3 years lived together
    – went to another country for a better future
    – always talked about the future, marriage, children, wedding, etc.
    – I’d be able to relax more than once and not give her attention and passion to the relationship because I really believed she was the one
    – She was freaking out about it and saying all the time that she misses it.
    – after that, I’d get better, but like I said, I believed she was the one, and i’d relax again after a while.
    – she broke up because she’s afraid I’m going to stay like that way in the marriage.
    – I’ve always been there for her and she knows I’m a very good guy, and she said that herself and that maybe she’ll regret it one day because of that decision.
    – she don’t say anything bad about me to other people because she knows I’ve been very good, she say all good about me
    – in the last conversation, she said that she still loves me, that she misses me and that she misses all our things and that she has to think about herself right now and that she wants to be a friend and that I can always call her for coffee or a walk
    – now we live separately and there has been no contact for a month except congratulations for birthday and Easter
    – the current situation is very difficult for me, I wonder if she’s thinking about me and if she might want to reconnect and she doesn’t know how because I told her that once I break up, I don’t want to go back.
    – I am 30 years old, she 25

    When she broke up, we still lived together for a half month and traveled together to work, i was sleeping on the couch, after that half month i moved in another house, and the no contact rule started from the 28.3, the 5.4 i texted her just happy birthday she responded by thanks, and after that she texted me happy easter, i responded as well you too, thats it, whats the next step?

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    AssassinK

    Any help please

    #789789 Reply
    cc

    reach out to her! If she said she still misses you she’s obviously waiting for you to make the firt step…If you’re ready just hit her with a quick text and ask her how she’s been

    #789793 Reply
    Lane

    I’m going to be bluntly honest with you, she’s most likely done. She left because she didn’t feel happy in the relationship, you weren’t meeting her love language (look it up) and she got tired of having to beg you for it.

    You can be the greatest guy on earth but if you are not naturally meeting the other’s top needs then one eventually gives up and begins the process of yearning for a partner who can give it them easily and effortlessly without them having to say a peep v. continually begging or nagging the other for it. This is a case of Peter crying wolf. Only when she was ready to walk you stepped up but as soon as it looked OK, you reverted back to your natural self and stopped meeting her needs again, and only stepped up when you could see she was unhappy again. She got tired of dysfunctional cycle and jumped off the hamster wheel.

    IMO, YOU are showing zero signs of being able to naturally (key word) fulfill her needs. All I’m hearing is that its all about YOU, you’re a great guy, which is NOT the reason she gave up, its because you are unable to make her her feel loved every single day in the way SHE NEEDS to feel loved in order for her to stay. You had three years to do it, failed, and she’s now seeking it with a guy who can give her what she needs without having to tell him.

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