Am I too committed to something that isn't there


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    Corinne

    Hi everyone, sorry that this may be a little long but trust me it has to be for you to get the full picture.
    So I met this guy over my winter break from college on a dating site and we are both the same age and he lives a town over from mine in my home state. We never got to hangout before I left to go back to college and we were both kind of bummed since our work schedules were always a problem with timing. I went back to college and we kept snapchatting constantly to the point where we are currently best friends and we have the red heart, its been like that for the last month or so. If you don’t know what that means is means that we talk to each other the most out of our other friends on Snapchat. Anyway, now we got into facetiming a lot and we would constantly for hours at night into the early morning. He’s told me things that he hasn’t even told his best friends from highschool and I’m the only one who knows which makes me feel good that he can tell me. He makes me feel good about myself by calling me beautiful and wifey and he wants to be exclusive with me but only when I’m home. Im feeling anxious now though because he keeps making comments that he’s looking for a girlfriend and looking to hookup with other girls till I come home for summer break. He tells me that he can’t because he always had me in his mind when he tries but he cant, then he will FaceTime me. He plans on taking me to his family summer house too and keeps making these plans but I don’t know what to think. I want to buy a plane ticket home but I’m not sure if it’s worth it. Am I crazy for even thinking that? What do I do? Help!!

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    Hannah

    Don’t buy a ticket home! If he has the right feelings for you, he’ll buy a ticket to visit you.

    I think you are too commited. You’ve never met the guy and all you have to go on is nice words. They may well be genuine, but if you can’t have a relationship until the summer, it may fade away before then.

    Time will tell but I’d be realistic about this. When I was at university, a lot of people joined who were in long term relationships. Not one of those relationships lasted. The distance, the distractions of university, the way you mature and change, everything just made people grow apart. And these were people that has already built a foundation and a relationship together.

    I would keep in touch with him and hope to see him in the summer (or earlier if he wants to visit). But I wouldn’t hold too much hope on it.

    #689872 Reply

    Raven

    Short answer: Yes

    Longer answer: You don’t know this guy.

    You really don’t know that the secrets he’s shared with you aren’t common knowledge amongst his friends…

    If he was so gung-ho, why hasn’t he boarded a plane to see You?!

    It’s called grooming… You chat online for ages, meet up some where. Because you’ve had this incredible (online) connection, you have sex & he’s never to be heard from again 😐

    Please go back & read what you wrote…
    “he keeps making comments that he’s looking for a girlfriend and looking to hookup with other girls till I come home for summer break.” – – – What does this even mean …?

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