… (Previous page – 7 Rules for Dealing With Difficult People) PREVENTION. We protect ourselves by being prepared. We tell ourselves beforehand that no matter what the other does, we will not let him/her push our buttons. We’ll remain calm and deal with the situation without giving away our power, without being in a reactive mode.
In an encounter with a difficult person, remember:
a. Many times you have to deal with that person whether you want it or not.
b. Don’t be judgmental; everybody has his own issues.
c. Find the good intentions in others. Give them the benefit of the doubt.
d. The more effort you put into getting along with another, the greater the benefit for yourself.
e. Treat others the way you would like to be treated
f. Learn, keep, and frequently use the 7 rules
g. Remember, the person that has to change is the one who can and is eager to make the change.
h. Keep in mind that being complacent and sometimes giving in, does not mean you are relinquishing your power.
i. Remember many people are just not aware of their behavior. Nobody wants to think or himself as being mean or difficult. After all, everybody wants to have a good life.
Recipes for Life:
Ingredients:
1 cup of self-control
1 bunch of perspective
1 slice of purpose/target
3 drops of acceptance
1 pinch of noble eyes
Condiments:
Cleverness, endurance, and hope
Preparation
1. You always have a choice to control yourself. Nobody can make you feel, say, or do something that you don’t want. You are your own chef, therefore you are responsible for your actions.
2. The only person that you can change is yourself. When you accept and change your behavior and/or thoughts, you can relate to others in a new and fresh way. Trying to change others is a fruitless task, with dashed hopes and full of disappointment
3. At all times remember your goal. These will empower and provide strength, patience, and a clear point of view, helping you to act calmly and wisely.
What are your rules for dealing with difficult people? Tell us in comments!
– SABRINA ALEXIS
Written by Sabrina Alexis
