Worried he won’t wish me Happy V Day

Hei Sad!
I had similar situation but yesterday I asked if he had plans on me for V Day and that I would like to see him that evening. He answered that he completely forgot about this Day but suggested to meet at his and he cooks for me or we go out. So when I said he’s a tremendous romantic to forget about this day, he said that in his technical/engineering education “Romantics” was not a major subject.
Anyways, guys might not be as much excited about this day in general, but also might be due to fading out. I don’t know..
So what you will do if he doesn’t reach our today but text you another day?

In no way is this to negate your feelings but, please keep in mind this is only one day.

His actions as of late has shown you that his interest is low.

I think its time you move on.

Enjoy your day and stop worrying about a guy who isn’t worried about you.

I know it is just another day but so much importance is put on it. I was just hoping he cared about me or would think of me today. I feel stupid for thinking that. I figured he was losing interest in me. Seems everyone loses interest in me early on or within a few months.

Sadly, it is harder for me to forget them as easily as they forget me. I guess I will stop talking to him. Which shouldn’t be hard as I assume I won’t hear from him again anyway.

Hope everyone else has a good day. Thank you.

You’re not stupid at all! You like him and you hope you’ll hear from him. You still might.

I think after 4 months, going with the flow is a bad idea. It gets you into FWB territory. If someone hasn’t stepped up by then, I would have “the talk”. Ask him where you both stand because you want to be clear.

In this case, I wouldn’t bother with that. Everyone knows it’s Valentine’s Day. If he doesn’t get in touch, I would forget him.

You’ll find the right guy eventually. You seriously do have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a Prince! But the great thing is, you then appreciate him even more when you find him.

And hell no, you should not wish it first. How lame. Please don’t. He has already blown you off for the day. don’t be pathetic and send him a text at all. nothing. Just drop his lame self.

It is a good thing, you have seen the light. he has revealed that he is not interested in making you feel special. He must be a blockhead, or really using you.

I would not mention a thing about V day. Will he have the nerve to text and ask you for a sleepover in the near future? If so, I would decline, and drift away from him asap.

All of the above posters have brought up valid points. I think this is your cue to dump this guy…PROACTIVELY….not because he didn’t make V-day plans with you, but because he is WAY too lazy in the relationship overall. You can do better. Dump him officially tomorrow. As for today, treat yourself to something fabulous!

He wished me a Happy V Day and said he hopes I am having a good day. He didn’t ask to see me, though. I am not that concerned about gifts or anything and I am happy he thought of me enough to contact me. But most of the advice here is that I should forget about him. I like him but I am confused on what to do. Should I stop talking to him?

I’m sorry Sad, that I love you stuff was just the alcohol talking and if he’s avoided you today it’s a very clear message he’s not that interested. This isn’t going anywhere. All the guys I’ve dated who have been all in always did dinner, a card and a small gift on Valentine’s Day. And I also have done a card and a small gift for him, or offered to cook dinner if we had been dating a long time (only did that once, was taken out otherwise). The wonderful man I”m with now gave me lovely roses, a small box of gourmet chocolate and we had a nice dinner out. Some of you can complain about this being a commercial holiday but it’s a celebration of love and romance and I think it’s sweet. Guys don’t “forget” this day if they are serious about you.

He let you know loud and clear where you stand.its called crumbs. If he had planned a date, you would have knocked yourself out planning the perfect gift . But he didn’t do the same for you.

He put no effort into you. I don’t see how you can still like him. You have now proven to him that he can give crumbs and you will lick them up and be greatful for crumbs.

He will drop you when he finds someone he really likes

Not harsh – truthful. You knew the answer to your question before you even posted here, actually. I think you are pretty down on yourself from all the comments you’ve posted and I’m sorry to see that. This is just one man. Apparently not the one for you. Not worth getting this down over. You can’t let other people’s behavior or opinion of you destroy your self esteem like this honey. This is the point in dating where either things go forward or it fizzles and most time it is going to fizzle. Do something nice for yourself today. You deserve it.

He will probably contact you again, but it’s up to you if you want to keep going with something that doesn’t seem to have a future. Me, I would bow out.

If you don’t think well of yourself and treat yourself well, you can’t expect any better from anyone else. People take their cue for how to treat you from YOU. You’ve been seeing him and sleeping with him a few times a week for long enough now for you to have enough information if he meets your standards. A guy who doesn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day is sub-standard. Move on and keep your chin up. Raise your self esteem before you start dating again or you will repeat this experience.

All this stress and anxiety you had posting because you were worried he wouldn’t wish you Happy Valentine’s. Then in the end he did but it didn’t make you any happier or answer any of the real questions you have which is where does this relationship stand and how does he feel about you? It’s been a few months, he’s blowing hot and cold, he hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend or committed to you and you don’t even know if he sees you as a “love” interest. When a man is falling in love with you it is clear. You can tell my his actions, the things he says to you, the things he does for you, how he includes you in his life, his future plans, and how he wants to make sure you know how he feels. I am not seeing anything in this man’s actions indicating he wants you to be his girlfriend. You need to have a conversation with him and be prepared to walk away.

Sad, am truly sorry that this happened to you and am sorry for myself as well because its exactly what’s happening in my relationship. I want to let go so bad but its so damn hard. You need to be happy and for you to achieve that, you need to raise your chin high and walk away knowing he didn’t break you but lost the best thing he could ever have.