Why did he text me?

I started talking to this guy on a dating app. We hit it off, talked on the phone and had discussed meeting up. At the time he was traveling back and forth for work and was then going home to visit his family for 10 days, so there was a 3 week period where we couldn’t meet. While he was visiting his family he texted me asking when we were going to meet up. He lives in NJ and I live in NY. I asked how this was going to work. He doesn’t currently have a car and has been Ubering or taking the train/bus everywhere. I do not live in the city and I’m unfamiliar with how to navigate the trains. He wanted to meet up in the city. I said I wouldn’t be comfortable traveling back and forth by myself since I don’t do it regularly. I asked if he would be ok coming to my area for the first meeting. He said no since he didn’t have a car currently (but has a license), didn’t want to pay for the uber and he would feel uncomfortable coming to my area. Which makes no sense. He works in my area, drives from NJ to my area in a work truck every night, and used to live in my area a few years ago. We also had conversations about how he feels it is hard for women to date nowadays because of all the safety concerns – traveling by themselves, taking ubers and not knowing if they may be attacked, raped or getting into the car with a weirdo etc.
When I said I wouldn’t feel comfortable going in and out of the city alone he said well where is your sense of adventure? He said I’ll be there waiting for you and you still don’t feel ok? I said after the conversations we had about women’s safety, and I’m telling you I don’t feel comfortable, you’re making fun of me? And how would coming to my area make you uncomfortable if you are familiar with my area? We didn’t part on good terms and I let it drop.
About a week later he texts me asking if I still think about him. I said he crosses my mind and I feel bad about how we parted. He said he’s trying to rack his brain figuring out a way we could meet and he misses talking to me and thinks about me at least once a day. He said he was happy we were talking again. And then I don’t hear from him anymore. He didn’t call, text nothing for more than a week. I texted him this past weekend and said are you still thinking about me? He responded yesterday that of course he does and that he didn’t respond to me because he was in the hospital the last four days. I asked if he was ok, what happened etc and he didn’t answer any of my questions. Just said he’s gonna be ok, that was last night. As of right now I still haven’t heard from him. No questions answered.

I guess I don’t understand why he texted me if nothing changed on his end. I don’t understand why it is ok for him to come to my area for work but not to see me. If the guy doesn’t make the effort at least in the beginning of dating isn’t that a bad sign? The living in different states would always be an issue and I know this won’t go anywhere. I guess I want to know if I was being unreasonable. I feel upset and unresolved and sad, why poke me to drop me? I also feel stupid that I reached out to him again after he stopped texting me more than a week ago. That I wanted to reach out to him again last night and tell him if he wanted to talk I’m here.