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  • #414919 Reply
    Daisy

    I need some advice ladies.

    I’ve been doing this online dating thing and currently I am seeing three men. Two of these men started calling me “sugar” “honey” and “babe” after the first date.

    What’s up with that? I would like any advice from anyone who feels like they know why men do this. I honestly feel like these men are trying to make me feel like “we” are something more as to get me emotionally attached -maybe as a means to have sex?

    Anyway, the last guy I went on a date with (the third guy) .. we had a fantastic first date but no kiss or anything afterward (which is fine, it’ll happen). BUT WHY IS HE CALLING ME BABE after that one date? I couldn’t help but ask him today why over text as he called me babe for the umpteenth time (like that’s all he refers to me as everyday since). It was really starting to bother me and he responded “Its a pet name .. don’t worry it won’t happen again” ..which I thought was a bit harsh but maybe I bruised his ego by calling him out on it. And ever since he’s been short with me all day after that.

    What gives?
    I need some enlightenment.

    #414920 Reply
    April

    Maybe he’s trying to be sweet? (or to be sweet a.k.a. so he can get you and eventually have sex with you) But if it bothers you then say it out. You are just dating this guy so if they backed off after you speaking out what you want then move on to the next.

    Kudos to you for saying this out loud to him. Just wait and see what he does next – that’s when you’ll know if he’s worth it or not.

    #414923 Reply
    redcurleysue

    Hi,

    I don’t like fast pet names either….makes me wonder if they remember my name….

    If I have been with someone a year or two it is fine….

    #414924 Reply
    Rose

    I don’t know why they do it but it really annoys me. Those calling me babe were after only one thing. All the normal, kind of serious ones would not call me names other than pretty or would find me an original and cute nick name.

    #414930 Reply
    Daisy

    Thank you ladies for the advice.. I feel like you all are just confirming what I felt was the reasoning to begin with. I had asked a girlfriend today and she also said it was weird and off putting.

    I feel like I severely offended this third guy.. but I guess time will tell. I just don’t get why rush into such a thing. Rose -I’ve also had this happened once before with a guy who was a total player (I wasn’t aware at the time and it was kind of a tactic I think he pulled on any girl who’d buy into it).. that’s why I’m like WHY?!?! And the men that were serious also didn’t rush into such a thing. –I appreciated that tidbit of advice.

    This is kind of a bummer. But I really appreciate the input.

    #414949 Reply
    Harley

    Some use per names for everyone..it’s just their character.

    others use them specifically…as they are players trying to reel you in.

    You are right to be cautious. as per my mantra…time shall tell.just enjoy the daring and if any one of them is serious. . to 4 months shall tell his true intentions.

    #414950 Reply
    Harley

    dating. …not daring.

    #414956 Reply
    jC

    I use the word babe when talking to someone I’m dating that I’m comfortable with. Actually I never called my ex by his name. However, they could be doing it to not have the need to remember your name i.e. too many girls=all babe? If you don’t like it absolutely say something, just maybe not so harshly.

    #415540 Reply
    patsytshirt

    these online guys email dozen, hundreds of chicks. It’s hard to remember all their names, so they call babe, sugar, honey because it’s safer than call you by the wrong name.
    I remember a guy who started calling me ‘beautiful’ in another language, it was hilarious, I instantly figured out that he was confusing me with another girl from another country who spoke a similar language. I asked him ‘oh do you speak X language? very cool, I understand what you said because I speak a similar language”. He apologized and realized that he made a fool of himself, later I found out he was chatting with another girl who spoke that language.

    #415548 Reply
    Rose

    Talking about that, this new guy I’m talking to dared to call me babe, after just like two emails. I told him, “I have a name, you don’t need to call me babe” He apologized and I think that sparked his interest even more, haha … Maybe some do it to see how one reacts, it’s bait.

    Although I know ladies who call everyone “hun” … maybe It’s something like that?

    #415558 Reply
    Lagirl

    My experience is that they are players. The two I experienced who did that called all their women the same pet names. It makes it easy so they don’t have to remember who they are texting…

    Any man I got serious with held off on pet names until we were more established.

    #415575 Reply
    Diva

    OMG LAgirl is totally right!!! I agree 100%

    #415578 Reply
    Stefanie

    If you lose your name and gain a generic pet name after a few dates, you definitely have a player on your hands.

    #415580 Reply
    Marie

    @Daisy honey and sugar is so outdated and pretentious I don’t even know why a guy would want to use those words. Calling a woman Babe/baby/boo seems to be the trend or the “in thing” nowadays.I live in North America,and everyone seems to call their significant other babe/baby or boo. It no longer carry a special or endearing meaning it once did,in my opinion, it is used too easily and readily. A lot of guys especially players use it a lot. Every woman is baby since that way they will not get mixed up with the women’s names and especially for the ones who are serial cheaters it helps to cover any slip up etc. it also helps when they are sending out their bullshit group text messages while e-tethering they just address all the women on their list as Baby. Some women make a big deal about being called baby, and believe that the guy thinks they are special, while some women are actually offended by it especially when you have just met the guy. I personally think it’s presumptions and arrogant for a man to use that term in the early stages of getting to know you, best to wait until you are actually in a relationship.

    #562526 Reply
    Peeved Male

    O.K. first off, it is very judgmental and unfair to assume that this guy has ulterior motives in calling someone “Babe”. There could be a number of reasons for this including thinking you like it, just trying to be romantic to actually not even realizing he is doing it. When you called him out, he probably felt stupid firstly. When you feel stupid, many times you pull away from embarrassment. You seem to have a strong personality that perhaps this particular guy ins’t compatible with. Here is the thing, women do the same thing. I have women that I just meet online calling me babe or honey after 12 hours! Women are no different. It is just humans and sometimes we create things in our minds. Overall, it is a bit weird which is why I am here researching the topic but almost everyone here is calling him out to be a player or fake. Seriously, I know for a fact that a lot of good men just are awkward in relationships and have no ill intent when doing this as well as women. Think about how many times BOTH parties use these names after one date and never think anything of it. I also think far less men than you think call women “Babe” because so they don’t confuse names lol If you let a guy get this far without realizing he is a phony then you need to tune up your radar. Seek the good in people, the guy probably isn’t your type in the long ru, don’t try to change who he is after one date :) Live, Love, Prosper!

    #562543 Reply
    Tallspicy

    Wow, way to read too much into it. Women do tend to use more pet names in general. It means nothing as long as they are engaging for real, it means he is a player if he acts like a player or pushes for sex.

    #562547 Reply
    Shannon

    I’m sorry, I don’t think it’s respectful to call someone you don’t know very well pet names. Especially if you’ve only been out with someone a couple of times.

    I think it’s demeaning. I actually once told a coworker who was younger than me who kept calling me “hun” that I don’t like it. And she was female. She would NOT LET IT GO. She would do it “by accident” and then be like, “oh yeah, you think that’s demeaning.” I would laugh it off because I felt like I was being unreasonable, but at the same time I felt resentful that my wishes about that weren’t being respected.

    If you are in an intimate committed relationship with someone, that’s when pet names are okay.

    #562555 Reply
    Raven

    This post is 1+ years old… Why ‘Peeved Male’ are you trying to stir up trouble?

    #562560 Reply
    Tallspicy

    Shannon,

    I doubt very much she is trying to be demeaning. Most likely it is just a habit, hense her difficulty not doing it. I can understand why it annoys you, but her motives you have no idea about and unlikely she is purposefully trying to annoy you.

    #666025 Reply
    Joe

    To all you woman out there
    Why would a woman call a guy honey
    After the second date ?
    We hit it off and got along very well but
    When she called me honey after our date
    It didn’t sound sincere and as I walked away
    I thought I have a name and it caught me off guard
    And I found it to be a turnoff as well as
    Makes me think she may just be fake
    Maybe I’ll find out that is not the case the next time we see each other yet who knows
    Anyways I know the feeling and I’m a guy

    #666028 Reply
    Hannah

    My first boyfriend used to call me babe. Turns out he was calling other women babe at the same time! I’ve always been suspicious ever since.

    But Joe give her a chance. I call people darling all the time. Anyone I’m fond of, male, female, old, young. My friend calls everyone honey in the same way.

    Your lady may be shady or it may just be her term of endearment. Men never call a male friend or family member honey or babe, so maybe that’s different? If she really likes you and there’s something good between you, she’ll find a personal pet name for you in time.

    #666033 Reply
    redcurleysue

    I know this is an old post but I also want to respond to Joe.

    I feel the same way as you do. When a person, male or female starts early with endearing terms I have my radar up. It feels false. I feel that they do not know me well enough to feel endearing towards me yet.

    Yet, some people use these terms without thinking…I have had many waitresses call me honey. Sometimes, especially for women, I think a person may get sized up rapidly as to their “niceness” factor and the endearment comes out as second nature to them. I do not get offended, I think it is cute.

    So, do not put stock in all this is all I am trying to say. Time will tell with a person what those terms mean to them.

    #666053 Reply
    Lane

    I personally think everyone is reading too much into this.

    There are some people who are brought up differently and use pet names even for complete strangers! I happen to be one of them and I find it interesting how some appear to be offended and others don’t blink and eye. I have a variety of customers from all ages and locations and find those raised in certain areas, such as the northeast (like I was) are more apt to use pet names than those raised on the west coast.

    I often use “Hun” (short for honey) and sometimes others such as “dear”, “kiddo”, “sweetie” sir”, “maam”—even for those I do know the names of so its not corollary. Its more out of habit for those who use them and don’t even realize how it may come across to others who aren’t use to being addressed in that manner. I remember some of my customers giving me a weird face when I used it on them for the first time but soon realized it was just how I addressed people in general, whereas most of them adopted a pet name from me too such as ‘babe’, “sweetie”, “beautiful”, “darling” lol

    Today so many words have lost their root meaning, such as “babe” which use to mean “a baby”. Overtime it has been lost in translation and is used to address any gender for any purpose: sweet, pretty, handsome, nice—in a nutshell, it means someone you really like.

    #666056 Reply
    Jan

    I grew up in northeast and I always found it condescending when a waitress or other stranger used pet names with me. Hate it. I live in the south and they do the same there and I hated it. Dated a guy who used pet names with everyone. Turned out to be the biggest cheater and I tend to agree that men who do this right off the bat probably do it so they don’t mix up women’s actual names. It’s fake and I only respond well to pet names with people I have familiarity with. I have no problem with a gf calling me hun. And in all my relationships have always had pet names. But to me it’s a term of endearment, not just a term you throw out at everyone.
    I would never use these terms in a professional environment with customers. I don’t care if that’s who you are or not.
    So obviously everyone has their own take. But like anything, just because it’s what you do, doesn’t mean it’s always appropriate in every setting with everyone you interact with.
    I would have same reaction if a guy I dated once or twice started calling me babe. It sounds fake and to a liberty he hasn’t earned yet.

    #666074 Reply
    Raven

    Cos he’s lazy & can’t remember your name…

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