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    Isabella

    Hi ladies,

    I hope everyone is doing as well as they can be during these times. ❤️ Given that COVID cases were taking a bit of a dip a while ago, I decided to get back into online dating. I met a nice guy and we went on two dates that I’d call perfectly fine. The thing is that I initiated both dates—once on the app and the second by text after he’d expressed wanting to take me to a certain restaurant at the end of our first date. Our second date was this past Wednesday, and I’ve heard nothing on his end…I know I can reach out, but I’m cognizant of the fact that I’ve done all the initiating so far. Honestly, with the rise of cases again I find myself feeling a bit anxious and depressed, and I’ve been trying to take care of my mental health first and foremost…which is why I thought I’d come ask you sweet ladies for your opinions on the matter rather than fixate on it myself. What would you do?

    Thank you!

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    Trixie

    You want to allow him to be the one to initiate so that you can gauge his level of interest.

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    Raven

    I’d step way back…

    #903908 Reply
    Maddie

    I’d write it off and not fixate, because 5 days is a lot to hear nothing after a second date. It’s possible he’s experiencing the same anxiety with covid cases rising and is doubting spending time seeing newer people in his life in person, but back at the beginning of the pandemic when I was dealing with that, the guy would still reach out if he was interested even if it was to switch us to virtual dating. Even if you hear from him again, I’d take it pretty slow, let him do all the initiating for a while, and mirror him, as he sounds lukewarm right now at best.

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    Zoe

    You move on because you already ruined it by initiating

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    Liz Lemon

    I agree with the others- do nothing. I don’t think this guy is very interested. Not only because he didn’t contact you for 5 days after your 2nd date, but the fact that you had to initiate both dates. A guy who is interested in a woman makes it known. He stays on her radar by consistently contacting her. And he initiates dates.

    The only way to gauge whether he’s really interested is to sit back and let him come to you. You’ve done more than enough initiating at this point. He may not have a strong interest in you but agree to go out with you just because of boredom or wanting companionship (especially during a stressful pandemic situation). You want to date guys who have a genuine interest in YOU– and guys show that by initiating.

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    Isabella

    Thank you, everyone! I appreciate the input & advice. I definitely won’t be making another move. Hope everyone has a great day. :)

    #904445 Reply
    tammy

    does he contact you otherwise for general chat? but he doesn’t make any plans to meet during those chats? or is it that he doesn’t contact you at all nor does he make any plans to meet?

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