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    Ana

    Hi everyone, I’m looking for advice on my situation. I was seeing someone for a few months, but at some point, I realized that we were not compatible, so it didn’t get any serious. At the same time, I met another guy that I really liked. He really wanted to hang out with me, were asking me out a few times per week, but I told him that I was seeing someone else. He said, “let me know when you end that relationship” and pulled away a bit, although we were still in touch. A few weeks after I decided to break up with a guy I was dating because it was not going anywhere. I let the other guy know that I’m single now, and sometime after that, we met and had sex. He said he was waiting for it “for so long.” However, at the same time, I know he’s not over his previous relationships, which ended six months ago. He had a really bad break up couldn’t sleep for months and still has some issues. With this in mind, but also knowing that he was so into me, I kinda expected that we would move slowly, at least start to talk more often… but he just pulled away. He’s watching my social pages, but no texts or calls. I feel very confused now.

    I kind of sense that he still likes me, and he was assertive, almost aggressive in the begging. I asked him before if he just wanted sex, but he said that if he wished to just have sex, he could have had found it with anyone else, and he’s interested in me as a person. However, now, his actions demonstrate the opposite. The problem is, I think I’ve already developed some kind of attachment, and I can’t stop thinking about this situation. I feel like we are incredibly compatible, and if we decided to move things forward, there would be potential for good relationships. But I’m getting really mixed signals from him now and don’t understand if he would ever want to proceed. What should I do?

    #821232 Reply
    Not the real lily Collins

    Guys say a lot of things girls wanna hear before sex. Once he’s had the cake, things sometimes don’t work out the way we girls expect them to. Therefore until exclusivity is on the table, it is usually a good idea to refrain from getting attached or chasing the guy.

    It seems like he’s not ready for another relationship from what you described. Not being able to sleep for months is a definitely not a good sign. He’s probably not over her completely and he’s used you to avoid feeling lonely. Top it all off with mixed signals, this guy doesn’t seem to think you’re good enough to be his gf.

    Do nothing and I mean it. Unless you are not bother about seeing him casually, refrain from initiating anything. If a guy truly likes you and wanna progress, it’d be obvious. If a guy doesn’t wanna progress further you’d know about it i.e. what you’re feeling now.

    Stop wasting time pursuit him. If yes ready, he’ll come to you. Meanwhile forget about him. Now I know you’ve developed attachment, but try and train your mind to stop. It might not seem possible but it is defos doable.

    Take care

    #821246 Reply
    T from NY

    Everything NTRLC said

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