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March 20, 2017 at 6:43 pm #612701
we met about two years ago spend four months together and then we went through this really long LDR since then, we’ve stated that we are exclusive and he talked about marrige several times before. we’ve been having fights lately and it was getting realy bad we went no contact for four months
then we got back together. he said that he thinks its time to get married (I will be the one that moves) it was great and we both were understanding and saying we were fighting for no good reason and how hard this 4months was for both of us. the next day when i brought it up that how should i move, he acted like he was having second thoughts and said he needs time to think (he’s changing his career path and city and he’s under a lot of stress). we agreed not to talk about anything serious for a couple of weeks.everything was alright but then suddenly he stopped answering my calls. I didn’t do anything and just waited. a couple dats later he texted and we had really normal and short conversation. what do you think ? is it because of his job ? or somthing else ? thanksMarch 20, 2017 at 6:55 pm #612703
Let me get this straight—you dated this man in person for four months, then went long distance which didn’t work out and you guys broke up for four months and now you’ve reconnected and the answer to the problems seem like marriage? I’m sorry, I’m just scratching my head here.
I think you need to take ten steps back and think solely about yourself for a minute. Think of your life, your family, you career, YOUR future. Right now it seems like you’re just doing whatever he wants to do. You’ll be incredibly resentful if you don’t think of yourself at all in any of this and count on him to make all the decisions.
Regardless of whether you move or not (which IMO, you should only move if it would be a good choice for you regardless of him being there), I don’t think that marriage is the answer. You don’t know this man well enough and the past has shown that you guys haven’t been successful in maintaining a relationship. Slow things down. Work on the things that were causing the fights in the first place. Learn to communicate.March 20, 2017 at 7:04 pm #612704
moving is a good choice for me and we decided to do this after two or three years, and the real reason of our fights was that we couldn’t see each other as we planned and there was a lot of pressure. I’m
with you on the whole jumping to marriage.I wasn’t the one who brought it up, I just don’t understand why he’s acting like thisMarch 20, 2017 at 7:23 pm #612706
He jumped ahead of himself and now has second thoughts.
You cannot have a relationship without being together.
I would move if you want but do not count on a good relationship with him…you broke up before, you can break up again.