Rejected and blocked

Move on, dear. The only thing I’ve found easy to understand, with men, if they’re interested they will put forth the effort and you will not be confused. You are looking extremely needy and desperate to get attention from someone
obviously not interested. Someone else mentioned this and it’s also a rule I stick too. Never friend someone you’re romantically interested in on Facebook. However,breath, Facebook is not that serious.

Sad girl, its good to be caring rather than indifferent…true relationships can only be build when there is real care. The only difference is the first person you need to ALWAYS CARE for FIRST is YOU.
Hugs, its nevertheless not a good place to be in.

You have so much to offer and you should give it to the man that deserves, not some dude that’s clearly after you for sex.

Learn from here, you’ll get wiser and more mature. You’ll understand when you meet a guy who is in tune with what you want. Do not let this pattern recycles again.

Time and wisdom will heal and free you. No more “sad girl” this name okay? :)

I don’t understand my relationship with this guy, we had a smooth relationship for five months, he traveled abroad and change, telling me not to wait for him, I could get married, I love him so much, we had an argument later about him ignoring me, because he stopped talking to me, I was always the one initiating conversation. He told me not all friendship must end in marriage. I asked him if we could work things out, he laughed, I did not talk to him for two months and he did not either. But I was surprised after two months he contacted me, still he did not say anything about our relationship . while we were chatting one day, I told him he is ignoring me, that he hates me and messing with me and he said I shouldn’t piss him off, I told him, he is already pissed with me, he blocked me on whatsapp, though I apologized to him through Facebook for the words I said, he has not unblocked me till now.

oops! I just noticed your post was old…lol…oh well hope things worked out for you and you met a good guy.

For whatever it is worth, I would recommend some counseling. It seems to me the biggest challenge in this situation that you are struggling with is having healthy boundaries.

A normal response to a person trying to force you into having sex and then getting angry at you would be to tell him to F off. His behavior is out of line and he is showing you through his actions that he is not good boyfriend material. But instead of walking away and dodging that bullet you pursue him and throw yourself at him. I think counseling may be able to help you understand why your response was to force yourself on to him which is not a healthy response for your well-being.

You also said, “I’m too caring with everybody. I should try to be more indifferent, but I always try to give my best in everything I’m doing, whether it’s work, studies or relationships. I need to learn that just because I’m too involved and passionate, people are not like that and I shouldn’t expect too much from them.”

This to me is also an indication of lack of healthy boundaries. Being a good person, or whatever your motivation is for this behavior, is not to give indescriminately and have low expectations. If you continue with this behavior the likelihood of you being taken advantage of is very high.

A health boundary would be to be kind to everyone but only give if it does not harm you or harm the another.

One last symptom of what I consider weak boundaries is the disproportionate emotional response to the stimuli. All that happened was a guy who you don’t know that well and who you both showed each other not to be compatible or good for each other blocked you. Again, had you just moved on when he tried to initiate sex the first time, you would not be in this position.

I am not saying your emotions are wrong. Emotions are what they are. However, based on what you have written, I think you have some thought patterns, beliefs, and/or behaviors that are not in your own personal interest.

I recognize this behavior because I myself struggled with these exact same issues in my 20’s. I suffered a lot for many years as a result of this mindset. I may be wrong. But if I am not and this helps, I hope it gives you insight to help yourself. Otherwise these types of patterns and results will keep surfacing and you’ll have years of challenges as a result.

I agree with Kaye. You write and sound like your addicted to the drama. There are plenty of guys out there who are as well. You will find one and have an interesting dramatic time together..but this guy isn’t it. He doesn’t like it. He takes care of self. He knows he doesn’t want a relationship and knows how to avoid the temptation of the flesh. So he blocked you. Maybe he does unblock you and contact you again later.. because we all know how men like to circle back on opportunities…it will only be to see if you are worth a chance and have calmed down on the dramatics…either way the first sign is the best sign. It won’t work. Move on

I hope time has gone by and you are feeling better now. Your posts brought me to tears because I am going through some of the same emotional issues due to a crush that I thought liked me for 2 1/2 years. We work together and I developed feelings for him. I told him this this past Jan that I was crazy about him and thought he would grab me and sayhe felt the same. He did not feel the same and blamed it on the distance we were living rather than he had a girlfriend. I had no idea he had a girlfriend because he never told me. I have been crying for 4 months and trying to be mean to him do he will stop texting me. I am in my 50’s and can’t believe this is happening to me. I blocked him on my phone and I need to make sure it stays that way. One thing I have learned is never chase a man. Ever!