Now he is completely ignoring me 😔

Jesus woman. What is wrong with you? He is not ignoring you, he answered your text. Please decide what it is you want and stop leading this poor man on.

I am finding it really hard to break free – it’s strange- normally it’s not so difficult for me.

I thought few times deleting him but backed down-

I thought about sending a clear broke up message but that might seem like I am attention seeking

So instead you post here for attention. Yawn. It’s not like you actually want advice. You’re a royal pain.

I don’t think anyone here blames him for being done. You’re extremely high maintenance for a casual shag.

Oh Dee…you poor insecure Dee. Do you not see it that if you tell a guy that you need a little time, you are sending him away? “regardless of what’s happening”…You can’t tell him something nice without any disclaimers?

What is happening? You are playing games with him? Even your friends are telling you this. From your description he is not the classiest guy out there, I am not arguing this point, but you are so wishy washy and so annoyingly “evasive” that in his shoes I would have lost interest a long time ago.

You can’t stop being who you are, but you certainly can learn how to consider another person’s perspective. Review your relationship and what you were saying to him, pay attention to the little hints he had been throwing your way all the time, for you to push them away and brush him off. He is not the guy who would sweep you off your feet, he is not a communicator either, but he had interest in you and had feelings for you, I remember some of the things he said to you and how you replied (which to me was brushing him off!)

Your problem with this guy will continue until he loses his feelings for you completely. Or until you (unlikely!) learn to be genuine with him and consider his point of view and how he might be feeling.

And if you ever going to listen to any advice here, why do you TEXT about such things? Your text came out abrasive, it was not clear how you felt. Do not text to sort out relationship issues. Call and speak on the phone, and not after he comes from work, tired and hungry, when you know he is ok to talk about something sensitive. Or better speak when you are together, when you can hug him, smile at him. Let him see the vulnerable you. Instead you are this little porcupine always ready for an “active defense” while expecting the man to want to hug you. I hope you can see THIS side of your own behaviour. I know I am the only one who is defending this guy, but I am not actually defending HIM. I just see how your behaviour can be perceived as off-putting by him or other men for that matter.

And next time try to pick a classier guy, someone more civilized, with polite communication manners. LOL.

Oh and ask yourself, who messages do you NOT rush to read? someone who never says anything genuinely nice, someone who ALWAYS has needles in every sentence. Has it occurred to you that maybe this is how he feels about your messages?

But then again, who knows what’s going on, with you one can never know what really happened. Sorry if it is unpleasant for you to hear but I am saying it to help you. LOL

Maybe he does not read the texts because he knows its going to say something stupid. You can’t stop yourself from the texting of stupid things.

Lol Jose definitely confuse.com

He definitely done with me now.

And even if he isn’t it – I don’t think I go back to him anymore – too much damage has been done

But I want the hurting to stop

I don’t know why I am even bothering to reply to this post. I have been ignoring most of your posts because it is all SSDD (same sh*t different day) and you aren’t going to listen to advice and are going to continue to drag out this dysfunctional relationship until both of you get tired of it or bored. Not only that but you continue to have conversations regarding the status of your relationship and whether or not you are broken up over TEXT! Two people like you who have such a hard time communicating the most simple things to each other shouldn’t be discussing any of this over text. What did you really think he was going to say back when you pushed him off until next week?!? If you wanted to talk now then you should have said let’s meet and talk about this now. Don’t tell someone you need time and want to wait until next week to talk and expect them to reply to you right away. That doesn’t even make good sense. But then I have to remember who I’m talking to here. Take the time you said you needed and leave this man alone for awhile. Lord knows he could use a break from this drama for awhile.

“What did you really think he was going to say back when you pushed him off until next week?!? If you wanted to talk now then you should have said let’s meet and talk about this now. Don’t tell someone you need time and want to wait until next week to talk and expect them to reply to you right away. That doesn’t even make good sense. ”

What kaye said above is so right.
Dee, please read it again and again

Shawnee is right! I, for one pledge to stop responding to any more of Dee’s drama. Over and out!

That last post sounded like our friend Stephen

YES Dee, we got that. Nothing anyone here can do. I don’t know why you expect any different or what you are telling us for. It’s not like you have taken anyone’s advice. You can only jerk someone around so far before they go as someone else pointed out. He’s sick of the drama and games. And so what, not like you were going to get married. This is what happens when you pussyfoot around on text rather than talking.

lol you say you want to break up one day, and then are made when he doesn’t reply after you break up with him. I disagree he was a casual sex partner. This guy flat out said that Dee is his exclusive partner, but she refuses too accept that no matter what he does. Your relationship is toxic and you are the toxic one. Please leave this poor guy alone.