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Crystal
Hi all,
So I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago, and my crush also broke up with his gf (of 5 years) near the same time.I know he just got out of a long term relationship, but I’ve noticed he’s been msging me more frequently and there was a party recently and he asked me to dance with him..and we’ve been really getting along well.
Anyways, I feel like he sometimes acts a bit shy and quiet around me. I don’t want to push him to get into another relationship, but I also want to let him know that I’m interested so that another girl doesnt snatch him up. (he’s quite social with everyone). So how do I go about this?
Thanks
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If you are 20 years old … Have fun date him anytime.
If you are 25 years old … Wait a little longer .
If you are 30 years old … Look for a guy who is mentally ready for commitment.
Crystal
im 25
he’s 28Can I just be more friendly/flirty with him…I’m also not necessarily looking to jump into a relationship, but I just want to spend more time to get to know him…
Options2
Glad you are young.
But even if he is interested and ready for relationship, a lot if times in reality they are not.
Even when the guy claims he is ready and even love you . The next day, he may chicken out.
Just be careful, even if he does not pull the hot or cold sting. At one point when he brain and heart catches up, he words and action will likely become inconsistent one day. Perhaps, that would be the time you fall for him and he is ready to leave because he is healed and ready to look for his soulmate.
You can take your chance if you really like him. If not I would be friends for now.
Laura
You sure can date him…but you will be the rebound…let him settle into being single for awhile…if y’all are meant to be there no reason why waiting would be a bad thing. =)
Maria
5 years of a relationship, 3 months off. This is not enough. He will be messaging you a lot, of course, he needs a rebound.
I’d let him be for now, if you are serious about him, let him have a rebound first. Then you can approach him.
If you are not serious, then you can prepare yourself for a FWB. He will be looking around no matter what, he is out of a long-term relationship, any guy in his shoes would want to play the field a little and not get into another relationship right away.
Jordan
He’s messaging you because he wants to hook up. He just got out of a long term relationship and wants to put his feet in the water again. It’s not a good idea to try and “date” him now because he will not want to be tied down so soon. Don’t try to corner him or pressure him into anything because you’re blinded by your emotions. Take it slow if you truly want a connection.
Em
Crystal
Some people move on faster than others.
He might have checked out of the relationship way before the breakup. Given that he was in a relationship that long at a relatively young age, when people outgrow their connections fairly quickly, this explanation sounds equally possible.
Bottom line the only way you will know if he likes you is if you ask.
So ask.
redcurleysue
Being in a relationship from 23 to 28 are important years to find out who you are in dating…he did not have that time. If you just got out of a five year relationship you would not want to hop into another one…no you would live free for a while…enjoy it.
I would not date him at this point…the women who do are in for fast turnover. Let him breathe and look around. He will be dating, that is for sure….but once he is done with blowing smoke out of his jets it will be time to settle in again. If you can figure out a way be his loose friend…not too close….
Give him at least six months to a year….perhaps more to shake out where he is…do not be disturbed if he returns to his ex…this happens a lot…but they will probably break up again…so patience is key.
Do not be disturbed when he dates around…that would be normal….be a small voice in the background…and if you are meant to be your voice will become louder over time.
I would not wait for him though….just on the back burner….you date and keep looking in the meantime as well.
Stefanie
RSC – that is the picture perfect advice for how to deal with a man freshly out of a relationship. All ladies here, take note.
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Kayla
Go for it my crush just broke up. Today and I am so happy go for it YOLO!
Sheela
People and friends are speaking about their breakup, I am not sure about their breakup, how could I approach him? How could I ask him like did you break up with your girlfriend? Will it be good way of msg?
Lola
You are both so young, my crush just broke up as well and I am single, so I would see if he really likes you and if he is committed to you, then make a move!
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