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Hannah
I’m a college student living in the dorms, and the guy of the story lives directly across from me. He’s shown interest in me by doing things such as trying to get to know me (he’d walk me to dinner, etc.) and I would always catch him staring at me for longer periods of time. (Once, he had casually brought up the words “my girlfriend,” which is how I know he has one.) I simply thought he was being friendly and didn’t think too much of it. Once, we spent an hour just talking, during which I felt we truly had a connection. Time seemed to just have flew by, and we were laughing, smiling, and having fun. Then, he said something along the lines of: “Your expressions are so cute,” etc, but not in a blatant manner, which I found to be sweet, and thus it was after this encounter that I began to develop feelings for him. However, after that night, it seems he has been trying to distance himself. He’s ignored my Facebook friend request (a bit trivial, I know, but it is unsettling for me); whenever we are in the same room, his stares still linger on me, but he turns away soon after I meet his eye. This is driving me mad, and I want so much to confront him, but we still barely know each other.
Ladies, please help me out. Am I overthinking things? Misreading signals? What is happening to me!
becky
bottom line is. he has a girlfriend.
I think you should just do your own and be your own person and just be kind and civil when you see him. I always think you’d hate it if a girl was trying to talk to and think about your boyfriend, so dont do the same thing.
just be your happy nice self and who knows. he probably isn’t accepting your friend request because – girlfriend.
Miranda
Hannah;
If this guy is seriously interested in you, he would do the decent thing and end the relationship with his girlfriend and approach you. He has told you he has a girlfriend and is not friending you on FB because of his fears of threatening his relationship with her.
He is probably backing off because he thinks he has led you on and now is embarrassed. Look for someone else and be friendly, but no more than that. You could end up really embarrassing yourself. How would you feel if your boyfriend were giving off flirting vibes? That is NOT the behaviour of a decent guy.
However, Is he leading you on? Or are you misinterpreting his friendliness for more than what it is…friendship?
Nellie
Doesn’t matter if he’s interested in you or even love you, he has a gf, period.
I wouldn’t waste any time, effort, and attention on an unavailable man. I don’t have quota for them.
redcurleysue
He could be giving off signals that if things were different he would be interested in you….but things are not different and he has a GF.
So ignore the signals and look elsewhere for love.
Lyn
Those are not signs of romantic interest. It’s called mild flirting, and he told you he has a gf. So he was clear with you that he is not available.
Men like to look at women, doesn’t mean the women he looks at he wants to date. Men are simply visual.
You want to ‘confront him?’ Lol… About what? Looking at you? You are young and silly. Let it go.
And don’t be Facebook friending men who have gfs. His decline of that request is also a string indicator that he’s just flirting and has no intentions of taking this further or leading you on.Hannah
Lyn,
I understand what you’re saying, but you’re coming off quite patronizing, especially with the “young and silly” nonsense. So you’re basically saying any guy who has a girlfriend cannot have female Facebook friends? Now that’s silly. I’m not interested in him romantically anymore anyhow, but it seems trivial that we cannot remain friends.
Shannon
I’m thinking he was interested in you and was starting to develop feelings for you but pulled back because he is a decent guy who doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend.
Do you know if she’s there or long distance? It’s very common, from my experience, for a guy to start college with a girlfriend from home and then that relationship ends.
I would distance myself, stay friendly but try not to give off too much of an interested vibe. He has to decide for himself whether or not to stay in his relationship.
Lyn
It just sounded childish about you getting hurt he wouldn’t accept a fb friend request.
He’s not really a ‘friend’…and men with gfs or wives don’t just randomly add women to fb…what would be the point unless he wants to privately message or be in touch with you? And what gf wants that? Most women know their mans friends..male and female. So what’s he supposed to say if she asks who you are? ‘Oh, she’s a girl I stare at and talked to a few times?’
Fb creates way too much drama.
Jennifer
If he has a girlfriend, he’s not available to you. So his “interest” is not really relevant.
Jackie
Some men, women as well, like to do a little flirting, nothing wrong with that. Does not mean he started develop feelings for you and pulled back, lol. Means he didnt want to take things further that just that. Men do what they think and want. As long as he mentiond his gf, you have nothing, thus whats with the confuntation thing, lol?@
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