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January 12, 2018 at 9:37 pm #678571
I met C online a little over year ago. We liked each other, but he was always busy with his business. He is a lawyer and owns companies. So, I decided to go out with other men. We got more serious last summer, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. He texts me quite often to remind me that he is thinking of me, etc., and calls me some times. But I can see him only 2-3 times a month. We live about 30-40 minutes away without traffic. He travels twice a month, and may be more in the near future. Last time I saw him was 3 weeks ago, he said that he really wants to try to have a long-term relationship and we talked about where we might want to live together in the future, etc. He tried to see me a week ago when I was out of town on business I travel only a few times a year). I may not be able to see him another week or so. I am not sure if this is a good relationship to continue. Advice?
January 12, 2018 at 10:12 pm #678574
Entirely your call. If he’s treating you right otherwise, then it’s a matter of personal preference if this is enough time with him for you or not. I’d ask if he ever sees this routine changing. Do either of you want children? That is another factor to consider. It is not for everyone to date a business owner.January 13, 2018 at 1:17 am #678588
I agree it is up to you and if you can handle a busy guy. I could do it for a while if I knew things would change when we moved in, had children, etc. With someone this busy do not marry him until living with him for a while and seeing how he is like in that environment. Have a long discussion about kids if things get serious.January 13, 2018 at 3:23 am #678599
I have the same situation, seeing my man 3 times a month, sometimes more sometimes less, he’s either busy or on travel. Scarse texting in between. He loves me and don’t wanna lose me, I am in love too but all the time wondering if I have a bf or actually not and what is my place in his priority list.
Will just stand here to listen other gals.
I feel for you, Sakura.January 13, 2018 at 6:46 am #678616
Its not an easy relationship whereas you need to be super independent, confident and not reliant on a man for your overall happiness, that will primarily be your responsibility. It would be akin to dating a successful surgeon who spends a bulk of his time with patients and at the hospital, so maybe seek out the doctor wives club or wives in a similar position to get a truer picture and perspective on what your life will actually look like with a man like this.
Some women can handle it very well and keep themselves pretty busy doing their own thing (work, hobbies, friends, raising the kids, etc). It takes a very strong mindset to keep it real because when you sign up for this kind of relationship then you have to FULLY ACCEPT and EMBRACE IT if you do. What you see is what you get, so either take it or leave it—those really are your only two choices.