how to send message to unknown person on facebook

No. I’ve tried, to no avail. Try another avenue.. LinkedIn?

I did sent a friend request…was not accepted…the messages are still not reaching the person..will poking help ???? Or making any mutual friend ??

@mae

Linkedin is a great idea..i wilk try…but i dont think the person is regular checking on linkedin…i want to reach him fast…its urgent !! Any other suggestion

Marbles….you are young I’d I remember right. IF IF IF this is a bitchy message to the guy you last posted about OR his gf/ wife …don’t do it.

If I’m wrong about the theory I have here . I apologise.

Thing is subconsciously she already knows. If she is not willing to act on it it is her deal. Say you actually go through with this with an intention of helping the wife understand, what can you do for he when it all falls apart? Would you help her pick up the pieces? Say be her emotional support for the next 5 years she gets back on her feet? What’s your motivation for doing this is the real question.

Marbles,

I am going to be blunt so you understand.

You are doing this for your own personal reasons, not to help this woman. You are being selfish. You know nothing about her and her relationship. This is a selfish and bad move. You are in pain and instead of saying, I am in pain, you are trying to drag that pain around to anyone you can pin it on.

You are staying in this drama by doing this. Instead of letting their drama be their drama. Even if she believed you, which is unlikely, you are still involved in something that is none of your business.

Does that mean he is not a jerk? Nope! But the only way through is to just stay away from him and heal yourself. Anything else is just to make you feel better, so stop calling it some sore of helpful mission.

Ok so u think living a lie is better than facing the truth…i dont want to hurt her..i know wat it means to face all this…but wat i have learnt is that its better to face the truth than live a lie.
And subconsciously knowing is different…its not possible to act wen u just feel there is sumthng wrong..i couldnt act wen i thought there was something wrong…i could only act wen i actually found out the truth..is it not ??
I will not be dere to help her but then she is a strong women..if i can manage well she will too..infact i m sure she will handle all things well as far as i know her.

I doubt your story was that someone told you someone was cheating on you and then you were made better. Because you clearly are not better.

Just wish to know if there is anyone or knows anyone who has actually done wat i thought of doing….wat happened then..anything to share ?? Just curious

@talllady @ali my problem isin’t that she would not believe me..so many evidences to prove his association with me.

@talllady
I don’t mind u being blunt.. ur words really hit me hard..n they only hit wen they r true..but still i want to be completely satisfied with watever i decide..to tell her or be silent…but i wish that watever i decide is well thought… so i never look back n think ohh i missed doing dat !! That is why so much discussion but i think thats much needed as of now.

Marbles you need to stop this. Now.

Regardless of whether or not she believes you, you will be involved in hurting this person. Even when someone tries to tell a close friend or family member something like this, it is rarely received well. And it doesn’t matter what kind of evidence you have. People can be experts at self-deceit and refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant.

On top of that, you would be telling her of your role in this, as the person her husband cheated with. That is not going to go over well.

If you honestly didn’t know he was married, then both you and her have been fooled and manipulated by him. I think it is extremely cruel and emotionally immature of you to try and punish her further for this.

I completely agree with Tallady. You are doing this for selfish hurtful reasons. I don’t buy that any of this is for altruistic purposes.

But bottom line, you need to leave this alone and stay out of her life.

When someone does you wrong, you take the high road. Not to protect them, but to honor and appreciate yourself as someone better than that.

His punishment is living with his pathetic self and not having you in his life. It is not your job or mission in life to “make him pay”. And if you make this your mission, that says something very revealing and sad about you.

Leave this alone. This is her life to live, and her lie to uncover, if she wishes to do so.

This is not your business. It is time for you to learn a lesson early in life about dating and relationships.

And that is you only control yourself, no one else. So start controlling yourself now, with this situation. Deal with and move on from the hurt, and get yourself emotionally healthy.

Hurting another will not get you there, I promise.

I debated doing this with my ex and a girl he was seeing. I have posted about it a few times. I refrained and trust me you should do the same. You would only feel worse after. I’d like to think that karma will get these men but who knows. I am starting to wonder if that is actually true. Bc it doesn’t seem like karma has come to this guy I was dealing with.

Thank u all for putting in so much efforts. I appreciate that.

@claire just curious wat made u refrain from doing so ??

@phillygirl you are right in saying i will hurt her..i know that..but for the evidences u mentioned..i have so many that i can prove every lie..call recordings where he has talked about his wife as a friend and how he doesnt like her, facebook messages, snapshot of his matrimonial profile, wassup messages, i luv u texts, train tickets wen he came to meet me after lying to her and so many more.

@talllady i m wasting my energy on a stupid person..yah thats right !! But its not that i want to

@marinegirl i m afraid too..wat if it backfires.

Somewhere deep down i know i m being selfish..the wife has been wronged too just like me..its not her fault… i wish to reach a point where i no longer want to think about all this…be completely satisfied that i m doing wat i must do and wat is actually right.