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    mela

    Been seeing someone for 2 months, and he asks me out once a week. Very little contact in between dates other than to set up dates or to occasionally ask me how i am. Usually we go out for walks, to nice restaurants or bars, and we also sleep together and he always wants me to stay the night so we can cuddle. He always pays.
    I saw him on saturday, we played our favourite sport, walked in the park, he took me out to a restaurant by the lake and we were together about 7 hours. I would say it was the most bonding date we have had so far. I will see him this saturday. Is this a good flow, or should i be seeing him more often, say twice a week, after 2 months?
    Thanks x

    #460840 Reply
    AP

    I think things are going wonderfully, however after 2 months there should be a little more contact in between dates. Also you should be able to see one another 2-3 times a week if things are progressing and schedules/locations permit.

    #460841 Reply
    CalLady

    There isn’t really any set schedule for a relationship, it’s whatever works for you. If you’re OK seeing him once a week then that’s fine, two months isn’t that long anyway. I’ve been seeing my guy for almost 9 months and there’s still times we only get to see each other once week because of scheduling conflicts. If he’s not stepping up in another couple of months and you want more you can try suggesting an evening out through the week and see how he responds, but at this stage I’d say just keep doing what you did before you met him and enjoy the dates you get.

    #460843 Reply
    Teri

    Hey we’re kinda of in the same boat here.
    How often you see each other is entirely up to both of you. IMHO this is a good flow since I also am a little over 2months in with my guy. We meet once a week only because I share custody with two young children and its the only time I have when their with their father, some weekends too.
    Quality is more important than quantity so I think you’re doing ok but some others may have another opinion.
    I do want to ask do you ever spend weekends together?
    This past weekend my guy came to my side of town for the first time and we had the whole weekend to ourselves. we took in a laser show at a nearby park, attended a jazz concert at a theater nearby and dined at a restaurant near the mall. I happily made us a big breakfast Saturday morning and just being “not home alone” on a weekend was a wonderful thing for us both.
    We’ll see what others post but that’s just my two cents.

    #460848 Reply
    mela

    Thank you for your replies :)
    I am not a big texter so I don’t mind that we text infrequently. I’d rather see him than text. I work on weekends in the morning unfortunately, and we works a lot during the week so gets very tired in the evenings, but I have seen him during the week at times. I am happy that I see him weekly (I used to date a guy who would only see me once every 2 or 3 weeks, drove me crazy, never again. It is what led me to this forum and change of mindset). But I would like to eventually see him 2 or 3 times a week, depending how it goes.

    #460870 Reply
    Teri

    Mela – I also once dated a guy who only saw 2-3 weeks with little to no contact in between. Is that considered dating??? I don’t think so but whenever I bought up the subject he always said oh we just make the best of it and I don’t call you often b/c I never know when you have the kids with you. To which I said, hey if I have them and can’t talk I’ll let you know. but don’t just not call because of that. Needless to say nothing changed and we are no longer in touch, personally I think that was a cop out.
    I’ve got male friends who call whenever they want to and if I’m busy I let them know.

    Anyway all the best to you with this. In my case things will probably never progress beyond 1-2 a week while my kids are so young. SO if he don’t complain and can remain understanding then I’m for it. He does pick me up for lunch from time to time, he lives about 30 mins from my job so that’s always a great treat.

    #460888 Reply
    karemm

    Mela
    I am really happy for you, this should be the best phase or one of the best.
    I would give anything to have what you have (in the positive way) of course.
    Someone interested, consistent at least once a week, showing they care. You said you are both busy. So, as far as he continues showing this behavior I think you to are both more than good.
    Enjoy this moment.

    #460901 Reply
    Gemini615

    It ultimately depends on what you’re happy with. At two months I personally feel like your time together should be increasing to at least twice a week. I sense that you aren’t totally comfortable with this since you had to ask. If within the next month he doesn’t increase the amount of time spent, you need to reconsider if you want to continue dating him.

    #460964 Reply
    WaitWhat

    It really depends on the man and my schedule, to be honest.

    The guy I’m seeing now aims to see me twice a week with 3 nights of heavy texting/contact. Because of my schedule it’s not always possible to do two nights together, though.

    The guy I just ended things with, though, god, he was so obsessed with work and I’d seem him once a week, if lucky, with very little contact between. Phone calls had to be scheduled. And then I hadn’t seen or heard from him in two weeks and he texted to ask me out. Uh, no. I didn’t doubt his interest level because he was a genuine guy. He just moved here and started a new job and takes his work very seriously. But that triggers something in me from my past marriage. But, for him, this is reasonable, so he needs someone who’s a little more detached.

    #572432 Reply
    Anna Marie

    I am a widow and only see my boyfriend maybe once a month or longer..its been 8 months…I like being alone…I tell him I need time and he is understanding… Is this normal?… He is getting frustrated as he is alone on weekends.. We text and talk every day..please advise if this is going to last or dissipate…

    #572440 Reply
    Jess

    I’ve also been seeing someone about once a week with sporadic texting in between. I like not texting too much because i think texting all the time makes you feel closer than you really are and it can cloud your judgment in the beginning. It’s nice to get to know someone in person. We usually make plans 2-4 days in advance and touch base the night before/morning of the date. I’m concerned though because last week, he asked if he could see me again this week and I said yes. He doesn’t seem to take for granted that I will have time for him or come see him (which is good). He had a really busy week and we checked in on Wednesday (today is Friday), and I initiated that conversation. Since I asked him out last week, reached out during the week, and he is the one with the busier schedule, I feel like I should have heard from him by now if he expects to see me tomorrow. Because it’s usually so consistent, I’m wondering if I’ll even hear from him at all…I would be understanding if he said he didn’t have time for a date after all, but I don’t appreciate him not saying anything about it and leaving me wondering whats going on. Opinions? And if I do see him again, what is a good way of expressing that if he wants to continue seeing me, I don’t mind not talking every day but I still would always like to know where we stand with our plans.

    #572442 Reply
    Lizy

    Once a week at 2 months seems okay. Give it another month or two and then expect things to got to twice a week. Are you exclusive yet?

    Anna Marie – no, once a month is not enough for a relationship. Why don’t you want to see him more? How old are you? You need to think about how much you like him verse being alone. If you don’t like him enough to see him once a week I think you should let him go so he can find someone more interested. (then again, if he puts up with your schedule, that is ultimately his choice.)

    #678740 Reply
    Kay

    When me and my boyfriend first got together once a week was fine then we increased it to twice cause we was struggling unfortunately our budget doesn’t come up to anymore then that sometimes i will see him 3 times a week but atm we’re both kind of skint and don’t have the travel fare, its been 7 months so i guess i cant complain too much i do love him already but i kind of just want to skip all this agro and get to the good times of our relationship. iam ill too so that does make it harder for us is it bad that i just want to jump into a time machine go to when all is well and we live together, and this awkward horrible part is over :( feels like i hug and kiss him and within 5mins hes back home really sucks how fast the time goes and how little we get to spend together.

    #678750 Reply
    Raven

    This post is eons old! 😐

    #714539 Reply
    Kerry Harris

    I live an hour and a half from my guy who i have been seeing for abput 3 months. We first saw each other every week for first month but now due to home life i only see him once a forniggt. I am still sharing the house i own with my ex and dobt have a place of my own my new guy has said thst when i do he will come tp me is mu new guy really into me

    #714550 Reply
    Maggie

    It all depends on you and your schedule. I only see mine once a week due to our busy schedules with work and school. I’m comfortable with how often I see him for now, but we’re talking about upping the ante in the future.

    #714574 Reply
    Andrea

    Has he asked you to be exclusive? If not, he might be going out with and/or sleeping with other women in other nights.

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