How can I love Myself?

Wow, Amy gave you some great points.

One of the things that is happening to you is you are too focused on your issues, difficulties, and yourself….so Amy’s suggestions can really help with that.

Here is a tip if you can use it. These internal voices are negative rather than neutral towards yourself. Most of that is expecting perfection and falling short of the mark, and when you are down on yourself you slip up more because you are in an whirlwind inside.

Here is the ticket….ticket to freedom….everytime you are in a struggle and feel you are losing remember to think neutral about yourself….while looking at the good is a great thing sometimes it is too far away from how you are feeling to easily do….first step is to think neutral instead of down on yourself….once you accomplish that it frees the emotions to move forward to positive.

i think this is a daily struggle for a lot of people – and i get it, it’s totally understandable because there are days when you have setbacks and think nothing of yourself. when you feel disappointed, upset, or sad remember that it is just a fleeting moment…life is too short to be down on yourself like that. @redcurleysue i like the advice of looking NEUTRALLY at yourself rather than DOWN at yourself. keep in mind, that these are setbacks and it’s OKAY to have them. BUT IT’S ALL ABOUT HOW YOU LET IT AFFECT YOU. wake up in the morning, tell yourself that you are awesome. happiness comes from a place of finding the positives within yourself. life is too short to be down on yourself like that. the moment i feel down, i think about all the millions of other people out there who have it way worse than i do. know that you are UNIQUE, LUCKY AND A SEXY woman who can conquer anything you want. surround yourself with family and friends who uplift you. you are the owner of your life and destiny. you create the path, and you are responsible for the change. successful people, happy people always take setbacks as a learning curve, rather than a moment of failure. they take what they’ve learned, pick themselves back up and keep trudging ahead. don’t let yourself get down like that. you are in control, and #1 thing to have is a positive attitude/outlook. without this, it affects every other part of your life. be grateful for what you have, the skills that you’re good at, how far you’ve come. other people out in the world can be way less fortunate and eons more positive. try to get yourself in that headspace as well. do things that make YOU feel good. look out for yourself because no one else will. you’re your biggest cheerleader if you let yourself be :)

I think it’s always good to write down nice things people tell you. For example if someone says you have a great smile or that color looks good on you or you handle yourself well in stressful situations. Think of all the positive comments people have said to you and write them down. Add to it when people tell you those kinds of things. Read them when you’re feeling down. And compliment others. I always try to compliment a stranger at least once a day. For example a young boy held the door for an elderly lady yesterday and when I saw him do it I made a point to walk up to him and tell him what a nice gesture that was. Or if I really love someone’s haircut or outfit I’ll tell them. You can make a total stranger’s day with one comment and it makes you feel good about yourself to.

I suggest looking on MeetUp.com. you can find our own interests and people who engage in activities regarding those interests. Everyone there is always welcoming and caring and wanting to lake friends and have a good time. Most activities are also free.

Just go to the website and enter your city and see what groups come up. Ot’s a bit scary at first but I’m a social inept person and I love doing this. People want you to come and join them for drinks or painting or live music or walks ir learning a new language. Whatever you’re interested in.