He says he just got out of a relationship and doesn't want anything serious

I don’t see what the issue is unless he didn’t tell you from the beginning onwards he wasn’t looking for something serious and he just dropped this bomb on you.

He sensed that there was an emotional attachment beginning to form and he ceased it. When a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship it MOST of the time means he really doesn’t want to be with YOU for whatever reason he may have; however, I think this guy is still hurting from his past relationship (it was 3 years) and just wants companionship at the moment. Think about it he just had a companion for 3 years straight to now being single again. People deal with breakups differently, some may spring right into another relationship, sleep around, go out on dates, pick up new hobbies.

You shouldn’t be waiting by the phone for him to contact you, you should still be out keeping busy. It sounds like you want this to go somewhere even though he told you doesn’t want anything serious. If you want something serious you shouldn’t be waiting around for this guy, he’s emotionally unavailable.

Yup.. leave him be. believe what he says. keep your options open and date other guys. he will either step up or not.

Hy Amber
I am going threw almost the same thing. So I decided to give him space too. I met a boy on the same day he got out of relatonship. And we connected perfectly. Seriously, I never even thought I could have so much fun and talk to someone like that and other people who saw us communicating, told we were perfect match to eachother until we kissed at one party. 2 days after that he wanted to have a talk with me. So he old me that he just wants to hang out with me and have no realtionship, because he just wants to be single for some time. So I thought let it be like that. We where just friends and still doing things together and I didn’t feel good at all. We where cuddling and watching movies and acting almost like a relationship. But at one point somehow something started to bothering me and him to, so we didn’t get along that good anymore. So I red your post and thought to give him some space for a week. He contacted me and we where talking a little bit, but nothing els. Somehow I am starting to get the feeling that he realy wants to be just friends. But I am afraid being friends will hurt me too much, so probably I have to stop hanging out with him that much.
But how did your story end up? It would be nice to hear about it.

I’ve been talking to this guy, for about 3 weeks. We started talking 2 weeks after he broke up with his EX. Hr told me from the start he doesn’t want a relationship, but he wants to get to know me, and see what happens. It’s been 3 weeks now, he talks to me everyday we hangout almost everyday. I know I want more, but I also know he needs time. What should I do?

I went through the same thing recently. I think it was pretty unfair that he wasn’t upfront about that from the beginning. It’s pretty selfish that he was just thinking about himself when you were involved in the situation and also impacted by his decisions. You deserve to make informed decisions instead of being kept in the dark where it becomes about what’s best for him instead of both of you.

My personal opinion is that you don’t get the full and authentic version someone when they are hurting and healing. They will say alot to get someone to fill the void and only time after the healing process will get you a better picture of who they are. Sounds like you deserve much better than what he gave you. Stay strong, Im sure you’re a better version of yourself for having gone through this at least.

Original post is 2.5 years old. Check dates! The person who posted is long gone.