He pull away after sex…

I would not even talk to a man after this. He changed his behaviour immediately after sex to no contact.

He expects you to contact him and initiate. Do not. And when he finally contacts you, do not be easy and available. You will be setting yourself up for a bi-weekly booty call.

Do you really like him, am not saying love?
Because love grows with time and it depend on what you want in the relationship.
He pulling back should give you room to improve on yourself to make you a better person with a wide perception about men and behavior.

This happens a lot! Majority of the 4,000 posts are based on your experience. It’s so common I’m amazed at your age it’s never ever once happened to you!

At this point there is literally nothing you can do or say to change his mind. Sexting, Convincing, groveling or begging will work against you. Have you bought ANY of the books I recommmded? Use this time to read and read and read so you can do it differently next time.

I was cool that day i asked if he sleeped well? And said me too like a baby with lots of good memories on my mind. And when i mention to do it again it was 5pm ! In my mind im like ok he didnt replied cause he was with another girl doing the same evening as we did yesterday and they bonded so much he realize he liked her more and now then its her he’s texting all day thats why i have no news… thats what runs through my mind all day.

How could you stay calm when the men you spent 3 to 4 evenings per day during 3 months vanished after sex for a full week how ? Im like maybe he hated my naked body and all those nasty things

If i write to him what can i write him to make less damages ?

So i cant say nothing?

Ok. Here is the deal.

I do not think you should reach out at all. Men after sex show their true colors. I have had men send me flowers after and other men disappear. But it is their job to lead.

If you reach out, you are essentially saying – if you don’t do the work, I will. Bad way to be in a relationship. Not because you should not be doing the work, but because you BOTH should be doing the work. When one drops out, it is your cue to drop out too.

And I believe if you send a text asking why things changed after sex, you are asking for a non-response or a lie.

HIS ACTIONS ARE SHOWING YOU WHAT LEVEL OF PRIORITY YOU ARE. YOU DO NOT NEED TO ASK HIM.

If you reach out – just do something very warm and playful (not sexual) as a check in. But I still advise against it.

@tallspicy do you really think i can change things remaining silent? Cause i feel the more time flies the more he forgets me or is used to not talk to me anymore…. and if there is another girl (i felt it when he send he was eating with a friend then go silent when i talk about sending him a pic of my outfit maybe he was scared the pic appeared on his phone and the girl will see it) he will forgot me at all

The only thing you can really change or influence is: how you think, react, and behave.

The real issue here is that you are tying too much to this one man.

If your self esteem was where it needed to be, and you had a full life, this would still be a bummer, but no so all consuming.

You need to leave him alone and work on you, that is where healing lies.

I would never allow someone who is rude or disrespectful in my life. If you are done with me, I will take the necessary time to lick my wounds and MOVE ON.

You are trying to chase after someone who is showing you how little they think of you. Please STOP! Do what you need to do to take care of YOU. He is not someone you should allow in your life, if this is how he treats you. PERIOD!!

Tallspicy and others gave very good advice. When we chase after someone who does not treat us well (or allow them back) we are saying (in every way that matters) that we don’t respect or value ourselves enough to stand up and require proper treatment.

That’s a great example of a very bad idea of how to function in relationships.

Please forget this guy, and learn the art of loving yourself enough that people like this are not allowed to appropriate so much of your attention.

It seems as much that you’re a groupie, being all over a man is seriously unattractive.

Your grammar as well might be the reason why this guy doesn’t want to commit himself into a relationship with you.

By the way, I don’t buy into the story that you cuddled for 2 hours,…you’re a groupie, you jumped at 1st instance and bo man wishes to be stuck with an easy pie.

My advice to you, Sex is not an issue here. Try be attractive without involving physical contact and have some dignity, stop selling yourself cheap.

u are just too cheap with no confidence plus low self esteem.with ur style, u can’t get a lasting relationship, and if u do, u will be leaving in bondage. I pity u! pls read ‘what to do until love finds you’ by Michelle Hammond. it’s the best book that can help u out.

This man made you feel special and then bailed after sex. Shame on him. I am sorry this happened to you.

Here is the lesson of the story. Men see women as sexual first and a partner later. In reality we are people first and sexual when we are romantic.

Men have to reach into their heart to see a woman as a person. Early on if you talk sex you may never get to his heart. You set the pace, you do not talk sex until you have his heart.

Once a man thinks sex, sex, sex and you encourage that you may not escape this sex label. You want a man to see you as more than that…much more. And yes, they will come at you from that angle early on…it is up to you not to encourage that until you see his real motives.

Again, I am sorry.