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It’s me again. He still hasn’t confirmed our first date even though we made definite plans, place and time already. Ive been reading dating sites and they have been saying that guys think it is desperate if they confirm dates? I dont know…should I just text to confirm the date? Or would I be the one looking desperate? He hasnt texted me all week once the date has been planned….he did warn me he will be busy all week because of 3 exams and one essay….but as I know, if a guy is truly interested, a one hi or hey wouldnt hurt…
I need a consensus advice on this one please. Should I message him to confirm? Yes or no?
K
The date is in 2 days by the way
K
Oh and I have not been messaging him either
Tallspicy123
Calm down! You should not be dating if this is so overwhelming for you. You do not look desperate unless you are desperate. Which it seems is true. Do whatever works for you and be confident, that is what makes you attractive. If you want to check in once, then do. If you want to wait it out, then be ok with either outcome.
Kate
Sorry I don’t know your back story but if this is the first time you’re going to meet, there is no harm in sending a message to check you’re all good for the date, especially if you’ve only spoken online.
I’d only send one message though regardless of his response or not. Was there previous dates that he’s cancelled on?
Poppy
“He still hasn’t confirmed our first date even though we made definite plans, place and time already.”
Is that conformation enough?
You are not ready to date.
Evita
Just send a text “Hey, just to confirm, we are meeting at xyz?” It wont kill you and it will save you the embarrassment of being stood up.
Sherri
I agree. I have gone on dates with guys who texted texted texted till before we met and I have gone on dates with guys who once the date was made did not text at all. Since all was already planned they thought it was all confirmed. If I did not hear from them, I usually sent a text the morning of asking if we were still on and the answer was usually yes. And most of those guys were usually early for the date and waiting for me when I arrived. Do not paint all guys with the same brush. Adjust your dating strategy depending on the circumstance. If he has not confirmed then send him a message for confirmation. If nothing, then you know the date is not happening and you have been ghosted on. If he confirms then go and meet him.
Khadija
How is desperate to confirm a date?
You confirm dinner plans with your girlfriends right?
Umm this is your time and its precious.
You don’t know if this guy is a total flake.
Yes, you need to confirm.
Simple text. Hey, just wanted to confirm our plans at (insert place)at (insert time)
Now, if he doesn’t reply to by the day of then make other plans.Lane
Agree with the ladies, if you haven’t heard from the guy then a brief ‘check in’ either 24 hours prior or the morning of is acceptable.
He did say he was going to be super busy with studying and exams so I can understand why he’s myopic (focused on that) and may need a reminder.
If he doesn’t respond then delete his number as he’s probably too busy for a relationship anyway. Honestly, woman need to be very selective in who they date and if a guy is ‘super busy’ that’s code for DON’T BOTHER with them guys.
K
Thank you everyone for your responses! I have been just reading a lot of dating advice lately and as a family full of women, I was always told to not “chase” a man and if a man does have interest in you, he would text you no matter how busy he is. I was just doubting myself when he didnt text me all week. Anyways, I texted him to confirm and I will be having a date tomorrow. Wish me all luck you beautiful ladies :)
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