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October 15, 2013 at 2:11 pm #41017
I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. He’s my first boyfriend and because I have no family and he’s become very important in my life and I love him very much. I’m also quite mature for is age and know that I can’t be clingy or dramatic. I work two full time jobs and take 19 credits in school and am having great success. I would make time for him whenever he requested it. He’s asked me do things spur of the moment and I’ve finagled my work schedule to accommodate him etc.. He is taking 15 credits and works part time. For the last 5 months he doesn’t text or call daily like he used too.Now its just once a week. I only see him at work (we work together) And when I need someone to talk to or comfort me I can’t get hold of him because he’s sleeping or has his phone turned off. His friends say he’s always been like this. Bit I also know his last two girlfriends left him because of this. He says he loves me and that I should just accept him like he is and I know he’s right. But the depression that I suffered as a child due to my abandonment has carried over into adulthood. I give him a wide berth and lots of space and he always seems happy to see me at work. He ask why I look so sad or depressed and he doesn’t seem to realize how important he is in my life. I want to keep giving him his space but I’m also becoming very depressed and I don’t know what to do. We’re both young I’m 20 and he’s 23. Everyone says I have so much ahead of me in life and to get rid of people that bring me down, but I just feel if I wait it out he’ll mature as well and realize his role.October 15, 2013 at 4:09 pm #41036
A big mistake women make is waiting on a man to change.
You said he has had women break up with him for this very reason? What makes you think he is going to change?
You would do yourself good to open yourself to other relationships. I know this may be difficult given your schedule, yet why give yourself and heart to a man who cannot provide even the basics of what make you happy?
One important lesson to learn is that we date people to determine if they will be the right one and a good fit in our life. If you find that they are not… you move on. Expecting someone to change, improve or who has ‘potential’ never works out.
He has already told you: Accept me for who I am.October 15, 2013 at 5:00 pm #41042
Also, please help for your depression.