First time being ghosted why did he do it?

Why do you care? You never met, just wasting some time chit chatting with a virtual online stranger, and he decided to cut it off for whatever reason. He was probably chit chatting with several ladies with zero intention of actually meeting them, or he liked one better and didn’t want her to see you and him talking? Tons of reasons of which shouldn’t matter because its a simple case of millions of idle bored people wasting time online.

You need to develop thicker skin especially when talking to strangers online. Don’t get involved in the social media realm with a guy until you’ve developed a real life in person bond over a two to three month period of time, and its clear that the two of you are starting the process of formally integrating yourselves into each others lives as a couple. That way no one can block you when you develop and adopt the KISS rule by not only keeping it simple but not caring or giving a hoot what strangers you’ve never met do or don’t do.

I’m with the others who replied. He never had any intent to meet up from the start.

Many married men are online, they’re bored & lonely. Did he really tell you much about his life? All small talk & flirting?

I’m sorry this happened to you, it’s disappointing. Online friends are pretty common these days. Realize that they are not relationships that will go anywhere, most of the time.

This happened to me once with a guy I emailed for 5 months. He up & vanished, no explanation, no goodbye- nada.

I was sure hurt but in the future I took any online musings with a guy with a grain of salt. I try to focus on meeting men in real life so real chemistry develops. Talking over text or email is talking to a computer. Men don’t get attached to a woman this way.

Please try to move on, forget about him. He was probably married or otherwise attached.

I’m sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do. It’s not your fault.

Sometimes people just get bored. Perhaps they met someone else. Perhaps they were never serious. Perhaps they just wanted attention. Perhaps they were too scared to meet, in the end. Sometimes people never end up meeting – even before the lockdown some people would ghost people after months of talking.

Normally, people are advised to meet online dates fairly soon, to avoid being strung along by people who aren’t really interested in taking things to the next level. The lockdowns have made this a bit more complicated- you can’t meet a guy as quickly as you could in the past to see if he’s genuine. It’s also made people more lonely. Perhaps there are more people out there who don’t really want to date but just felt hungry for attention.

We’ve all been ghosted. It looks promising, then someone fades out. Sometimes people even fade bck in, but I don’t recommend giving someone a chance once they got bored of you. You deserve someone who doesn’t get bored talking to you.

You’ve been talking for a couple of months, which is a while. But you hadn’t met and weren’t in a relationship according to what you’ve said. I echo the advice not to add someone on social media until it’s been a few months of real life dating and you’re properly integrated into each other’s lives.

No, you’re right to be hurt. It’s a dick move on his part. I’m sorry that it shook you a bit, and that he was rather excessively blunt about it.

It’s just that nastiness like that can be common in internet datiing. I used to get ghosted – soemtimes they’d come back months later and barely acknowledge that they’d disappeared. By that point I’d moved on and would be seeing someone new.