Fake booty calls? Always says he wants sex but never does it?


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  • #591499 Reply

    M.T.

    @Kim-He actually asked me to come to a hotel room with him earlier, but I didn’t really feel ready to be too physical then so I just put it off.
    @Hannah – I meant me liking him more sexually, me chasing him for sex and giving him booty calls.
    And thanks for the advice everyone, I’m not gonna talk to him now until he puts in real effort to actually take things forward. ☺

    #591504 Reply

    Hannah

    He asked you to a hotel room and sees you in a car? He definitely either has a girlfriend or lives with his parents.

    #591508 Reply

    M.T.

    He lives with his parents, yes. But he keeps telling me to come with him to his place anyway and that he can sneak me in easily. I don’t know about him having a girlfriend though

    #591514 Reply

    T from NY

    Women like you make life harder for the rest of us.

    He has a girlfriend. He is cheating on her – with you – whether he meets up with you or not. Please respect yourself and be disgusted by a man that would be so such a thug. He probably only talks about doing it with you because he wants to take the cheating further – but then chickens out BECAUSE HE KNOWS ITS WRONG.

    But people like you, when you participate in this type of behavior – normalize it and make it easier on the guy. Im convinced that if NO women put up with this type of behavior from men they wouldn’t try and do it as much.

    You cant control him – but you can control you. Develop some dignity. Please.
    (Oh and maybe, if you can find a conscious, frickin THINK ABOUT his girlfriend and what you would feel in your place if this was your man omg)

    #591518 Reply

    M.T.

    Whoa calm down, hes the one who’s initiated everything physical and booty calls/flirting etc. Not me. I don’t know why hes behaving like this that’s why I asked? Idk if he has a girlfriend? It’s not like I know he has one for sure or and even after knowing I still told him to continue our casual thing because I “haven’t found my conscience” or that he straight up told me to be his side chick and I agreed 🙄

    #591519 Reply

    L

    So you just like to hook up with random strangers that you nothing about?

    #591520 Reply

    Kim

    Are you 16 years old? This is starting to sound like a teenage escapade.

    #591521 Reply

    M.T.

    We do know each other? Just not very deeply because we don’t want anything serious so we don’t go in too deep into our personal lives? We’re just well acquainted/okayish friends? Even when we meet we talk about other things apart from sex.

    #591524 Reply

    Hannah

    But you don’t even know if he has a girlfriend… Are you vetting your men at all or just going for anyone who shows a vague interest? (And this guy’s interest is definitely vague!)

    I’d imagine he doesn’t have a girlfriend but he’s not allowed girls back because of the parents. He’s trying to act like the big man asking you for sex but actually he’s a little boy still living with him mummy.

    #591527 Reply

    M.T.

    Well he told me he was single, completely done with serious relationships after it didn’t work out with his ex, had rebounds to get over her, only wants casual relationships now, doesn’t even mind being just friends with me…

    #591528 Reply

    Pandora

    My thoughts:

    1. what jarcom said, he has a girlfriend and he doesnt consider handjobs a cheating (that was my very first thought) – car or hotel sessions would confirm it – I mean, how old is he, living with his parents where he cannot bring a girl home? How do you know, he is living with his parents?

    2. troll post

    3. on the other hand, I wonder, how this conversation would go, if there were (more and hardcore) male posters? (or if this was mainly male forum?) I mean, its a relationship forum, I get it, but every kind of connection with another human is a “relationship”. Here are mainly questions about getting a “real” relationship, with future family and kids and love forever, etc.
    but,if somebody want to sleep with somebody and the other party is not up for it, its weird

    The answer in 99% is: he has a girlfriend

    Soo, leave him alone
    I would be offended… he is acting like a girl:)
    on the other hand again: new generation of boys are behaving like girls

    #591533 Reply

    M.T.

    I know for a fact that he’s living with his parents. We’re both young (early 20s)
    @Pandora yes I agree what I have with him is a ‘casual’ relationship it’s still a type of relationship…Id like to know from a guys point of view too. ☺

    #591703 Reply

    Danita

    I am confused. You are jerkin; off a guy on a backseat and you tell you don’t want to get too physical. You don’t want anything serious but you want him to come forward. You say you have a casual relationship with him and yet you don’t even know, if you are his boots call or not. Nothing makes any sense in this thread.

    #591709 Reply

    Janet

    hand jobs or Any sort of physical ‘jobs’ with other girls are Cheating in my Estimation!
    Simple as! Lol

    #591719 Reply

    Jamie

    My verdict: He’s a virgin living with his parents and doesn’t want to tell her he’s never had sex before.

    #591723 Reply

    Nat

    I think your male friends are right. He wants to make himself scarce to you, tease you and make sure you WANT him, so he gives you a little bit of himself but does not let you go further. The same tactics women used to employ on men for centuries. haha..So he is putting you in a situation where you’d say either have sex with me or we stop seeing each other. Whoa…he has all the power over you.

    I am flabbergasted that it is working. You meet once or twice for hand jobs but after that..seriously? SIX times of this? as Hannah says, are you going for everyone who shows even a little interest? flirting via texting is not courting. anyone can type a few sentences and make them flirty. Gee. Women are easy these days.

    Let him play his pathetic games on someone else. Stop this weird thing but do not offer sex, do not say either we have sex or I walk. Just say you lost interest and you don’t want to see him anymore and see what happens. I think he would try to entrap you again shortly after, he’d let things progress a little further than a hand job but without intercourse.

    #591814 Reply

    Lola

    He is chasing you? Come on. He is keeping you at his disposal and treating you as a sex toy using your hand-job services when he wants to. He does not show up when he does not feel like it and is treating you like his slut, which you obviously agree to be (not to offend you but you agreed to fulfill his sexual needs even though he totally disrespects you as a human being). It is all bosting his ego whereas you are lowering yourself to the level that is beneath the levele of an object. Have some respect and morality, girl.

    #591822 Reply

    Phillygirl

    It’s very simple. He’s not “chasing” you. He’s barely interested.

    This is a kind of tethering (keeping you on a string for when he’s bored or horny). But he isn’t even really interested in having sex with you.

    I also think there is another girl in the picture. Whatever is really going on, I don’t even get your fascination with him.

    There is a whole generation of women who have no idea of their self worth and they allow sh*tty, crappy, dumb behavior from boys who aren’t even worth a moment of their time.

    I don’t give guys like this my attention. They aren’t deserving of my time.

    If you just want casual sex, more than plenty of guys are up for NSA booty. Why chase after or wait for someone who is a total flake and dimwit???

    #591916 Reply

    M.T.

    I don’t chase him, as I’ve mentioned earlier I always keep it 50/50. The reason why it’s only gone upto handjobs is because I kept rejecting his other advances to do more since I wasn’t comfortable doing too much too soon, I wanted to go slower. I’m not fascinated with him lol just confused with his behaviour. As for whenever we’ve met…he always shows up without any notice. So I’ve never actually expected him to follow plans…it’s not like he really stood me up multiple times after confirming plans and such. @Nat I know that’s exactly what I’m gonna do…it’s not like I’ve showed much interest till now. Hes the one who keeps asking/planning to meet and do things. And I tell him to slow down…like I need to hit 2nd and/or 3rd base before I can feel comfortable with sex. @Lola I have never flat out agreed to do everything he says. Ive rejected a lot of his advances because I didn’t want to go too fast.

    #591919 Reply

    M.T.

    I don’t know if this is an important detail but after the 2nd or 3rd time we met he asked me if I had been involved with other guys since I met him. I hadn’t, so he said I can, he doesn’t mind. I never ask him about his sex life but he asks about mine from time to time…like who I’ve been doing it with or when was the last time I did it.

    #591925 Reply

    Raven

    M.T.
    Go back & reread Philly Girls response…

    #591944 Reply

    Lena

    I had a similar experience, we made out in his car a few times, he went to the place I worked and stayed the whole night waiting for me to finish and once I even invited him to my place as it was getting late (like 6 am) and all he did was touching me, kissing me passionately, some other stuff but NO SEX.

    In the end I discovered why: he was getting married! The girlfriend wasn’t there and he liked me and he was probably bored. He even had the balls to ask me out AFTER he got married.

    He told me that he wanted to have sex with me but since he was engaged he didn’t want to cheat. Duh?! Some guys are plain assxxoles.

    #591945 Reply

    Phillygirl

    Let me be perfectly blunt. Dude ain’t interested.

    He is wasting your time, and if you open both eyes it couldn’t be more plain that this guy is messing you about because you are letting him.

    A man who really likes a girl NEVER tells her to go ahead and see other guys. Which is pretty funny (that he thinks he has the authority to tell you anything), since you two are NOTHING. Very presumptious and nervy. The most frustrating thing for me is how obtuse you are being about this. You are analyzing a guy who isn’t even making a minimal effort.

    If you don’t start listening and learning, you are in for a very difficult ride and lots of unhappiness. This is sad.

    #591952 Reply

    M.T.

    @Phillygirl Have you not read my previous posts?? We don’t want a serious relationship with each other and neither of us care if we’re seeing/having sex with others? I mean if I knew for sure he had a serious relationship going on with someone else obviously I’d stop being physical, it’s not fair to the other girl and I wouldn’t help him cheat because it’s wrong.
    I’m not desperate for him or anything, I never have payed too much attention to him up till now, his behaviour just had me confused, that’s all.
    @Lena well it’s a little different in my case as he keeps asking to do more than I want at any given time.

    #591956 Reply

    Phillygirl

    If you really didn’t care, you wouldn’t be here and you wouldn’t be trying to analyze any of it.

    Your defensiveness just accentuates the point.

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