Fake booty calls? Always says he wants sex but never does it?


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    M.T.

    So there is this guy, we’ve met like 6 times, 2nd time onwards we’ve been making out/giving hand jobs because that’s all we can do in his car without having to take our clothes off and risk getting caught. He always talks about wanting to have sex with me, especially on text…he makes plans to meet (booty calls) but never actually comes. I told him he never actually comes and he said, “should I?” I told him he should…he didn’t say anything so I retexted a couple days later and he was flirting on his own and ultimately started making another plan to take me back to his place…and he didn’t show up. I don’t understand…if you don’t want me at all, stop chasing me(making plans on his own, retexting like 50% of the time I don’t text back)…if he has ‘better’ options or whatever why not pursue those? He tries to flirt A LOT over text…and even in person , he initiated all the physical stuff…so can someone tell me what his problem is? Why all talk (that too on his own) and no action to back it up?

    #591436 Reply

    L

    Like 6 times? Like why can’t you find like a real place to like to have real like sex?

    #591437 Reply

    Lol

    The bro don’t like no stick shift up his azzz

    #591440 Reply

    M.T.

    I’m a girl? Lol
    He talks about taking me back to his place, but he never does, so 😐

    #591441 Reply

    Jen

    He has a gf…

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    M.T.

    Why chase me if he has a gf? Lol
    I showed his texts to another guy friend of mine and even another girl friend of mine…they say that he has too much ego and/or he wants to make me desperate for him? It’s all so weird

    #591445 Reply

    KateK

    The question really should be, “What’s your problem?”. Why are you even bothering? I don’t even know where to begin. First of all, what do you want? Do you want to be a man’s booty call? Why would you settle for such scraps? He clearly wants to keep you as an option but my bet is you don’t even make the top 5 at this point.

    Secondly, please have some self respect. He is blowing you off left and right yet you come back for more. The crumbs he’s giving you are microscopic!!! If you cannot even get a man to accept you as a booty call them you really really need to move on. He is definitely not chasing you. You are making yourself look really desperate and foolish. Sorry to be so blunt.

    #591449 Reply

    M.T.

    I don’t want a serious relationship, so …yeah. I’m not letting him walk all over me or something— as I’ve mentioned hes initiated most things, I just go along with it, that too not always, I’ve rejected some of his advances too, coz I didn’t wanna do that particular thing or go too fast. He makes all the plans himself too, I never tell him to meet me

    #591450 Reply

    L

    Yeah… not cool when the man doesn’t even want full on sex with you.

    #591451 Reply

    M.T.

    Then why doesn’t he just leave me alone? I don’t care if he does, I just don’t like liars and confusing behaviour

    #591452 Reply

    L

    Coz he don’t wanna really have sex with you. ‘Go too fast?’ Maybe he ejaculates prematurely? And that phrase scared him.

    #591453 Reply

    Jamie

    Because he’s bored. Because he likes knowing that you like him. Men (and women) of a certain age tend to be very self centered and egotistical, and there are certain personality types that will do ANYTHING for attention, even if it’s negative attention. Don’t waste your time. Tell yourself you have better things to do.

    #591456 Reply

    Raven

    Because he’s 15 & his mother won’t let him…

    #591457 Reply

    jarcom

    He has a gf and many people does not consider what you are doing “sex” so he probably thinks he is not cheating.

    He doesn’t leave you alone because you don’t want to

    #591458 Reply

    M.T.

    By ‘go too fast’ , I mean that I don’t wanna get too physical too soon. He did tell me about this one time he prematurely ejaculated with his ex girlfriend or something, but hes never done that with me when I gave him a handjob.
    As for bored, Idk maybe, I mean I would say me and him are both egotistical 😂 I never show more interest then he does, like I make sure of it…I always make sure it’s very 50/50. I just don’t get the whole acting so horny or whatever (that too completely on his own) but not really acting on it. Like if you don’t wanna do it don’t say anything of the sort?

    #591462 Reply

    M.T.

    I don’t even say anything sexy or whatever on text, I just go along with what he says kinda normally…

    #591466 Reply

    L

    Kinda? Is that like sorta? Or like wanna? I gotta unnerstan like what ya wanna have with this dude

    #591467 Reply

    Algo

    “Then why doesn’t he just leave me alone? I don’t care if he does, I just don’t like liars and confusing behaviour”

    Apply this to yourself. You don’t like his type of behaviour and you don’t Care if he talks to you or not. then make the decision for him and stop talking to him.

    You don’t even want a relationship and you’re posting on a relationship forum. It’s easy finding booty calls for women if that’s what you want. Go o Tinder, go to a bar, go anywhere really. Just find yourself someone who will follow through and treat you with respect.

    This isn’t working for you so move on from him.

    #591470 Reply

    Linda

    Bottom line, he is not interested in even a casual hook up so don’t waste your time. If you don’t want serious go look for someone else who also doesn’t want serious. This guy can’t even do that. There are plenty of guys who are willing to do casual hook ups and will have sex. This guy might have a gf like someone said earlier and thonks that as long as there is no intercourse then he isn’t cheating.

    #591475 Reply

    Catherine Tramell

    @L I have to confess something: I am in love with you. Like deeply wanna marry you sorta love

    #591479 Reply

    L

    Catherine, only if you sorta wanna make out with me inna car. Coz I’m not cheap to keep!

    #591482 Reply

    Hannah

    I love L too but it’s a bad love. She’s not always very nice to the posters so I should feel much more disapproving!

    M.T., I’d guess a girlfriend too. Or he has a sexual problem like premature ejaculation/porn addiction. Or he doesn’t like you enough to want sex with you. Who knows?! I doubt it’s that he wants you to like him more. Men are usually terrified of hookups getting attached and becoming clingy. They don’t want you to like them too much.

    Find a man that can give you more than a bit of fumbling in a car.

    #591487 Reply

    Peggy

    I think it is possible he is part of the new generation of young guys that can use porn to get off and has become lazy-does not want to have to give in anyway- might have to work to please a woman-lol. Why are you settling for these lame encounters? Why not ditch him and seek better for yourself-and not just sexually.

    #591489 Reply

    Kim

    At least find a man who will rent a hotel room. It’s more comfortable to fumble in a bed than a back seat.

    #591491 Reply

    Sherri

    I know of 2 guys who will meet girls for hand jobs and make out sessions but are not really interested in having sex as there are STDs out there that you can catch even if you use condoms. Also these guys have gfs. So they are getting their sex from their gf and they’re getting their ego boost and hand jobs from women they meet online. And as other posters have said here, they do not consider it “cheating” as there was no intercourse involved.

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